Conversation with a Holistic Life Coach

[00:00:04] We're over 25 years of marriage. We've learned that successful couples have great friendships. Put each other first and focus on light, just as much as love. We've been the years of marriage should be fun and easy.

[00:00:15] Our goal is to share our journey with the hopes of helping others build strong, happy relationship. Join us as we continue to create our lives beyond I do. Before we get into our episode, we want to share this disclaimer.

[00:00:36] We are not marriage counselors nor are we mental health professionals. We simply want to share with you what is worked in our marriage. Now on to our episode. Alright, we'd like to welcome you back to The Beyond I Do podcast.

[00:00:59] We have a special guest joining us today by the name of Regina Roberti. Regina calls to us as a transformation in holistic healing health coach. That's good. Very good. How you doing today, Regina? I'm doing great. How are you guys? We're doing good. Thank you.

[00:01:21] And once again, thank you for joining us. First and foremost, if you would tell us a little bit about yourself and what it is, what it means to be a holistic health coach. So I've been in the wellness field since 2010 officially. It's been 14 years.

[00:01:42] I originally got into massage therapy. I think it was mostly because it was a calling and I didn't realize it until I was 27. And it just led me on a path of trying to find better health.

[00:01:57] I wasn't necessarily in terrible health physical health, but I did have a lot of like sensitivities to things, products, foods. But I had a lot of emotional health issues, trauma stuff that I needed to work through.

[00:02:14] So massage therapy kind of led me into eating better, going more green. I was making a lot of homemade products. Then I got a flyer in the mail to go to alternative medicine school. And I thought, that's what I think I want to do.

[00:02:30] So I got my degree, my bachelor's degree in science with my major in alternative medicine. Back in, I think it was 2016. I finally graduated. I went through two pregnancies when right as I started school. Yeah, so that was kind of interesting.

[00:02:46] Yeah, lots of chemistry and math classes while I was trying to with mommy brain. So that was kind of rough. But when I got out, I a couple years later just continued to stay in the massage industry because I was a stay at home mom.

[00:03:03] And I wanted to be with my kids. I didn't want them to be with other people, being taken care of by people that I didn't know. We didn't have family locally to us. So I went part time and I started to build my client's house.

[00:03:16] I took over a location in Boca, Retone, Aspa in a luxury apartment complex. And me and my husband decided to build a business out of it. And when COVID hit, it knocked out 98% of my client's house.

[00:03:33] So I had to find something else to do that didn't involve putting my hands on people. Because I had no idea if people would want to be touched over again. I was a scary time for so many people.

[00:03:46] And I got into the coaching industry, which led me into the hypnosis industry because my trainer used to use hypnotherapy at the end of every coaching session to help solidify results with the clients and help them change their sabbatore ways.

[00:04:02] Which kept them from being consistent long-term enough to make things a lifestyle. And so I went to school for that and I got my certified hypnosis certificate in hypnosis. And still being home at home school mom, I was finding it very hard to...

[00:04:22] to find the time to do everything with my clients. The preparation was taking so long.

[00:04:30] The homework that was involved with it was taking a long time after the session was over because we would create personal live scripts and recordings for our clients to listen to for 21 to 30 days. And I kept thinking myself like there's gotta be a better way.

[00:04:47] To fast track this, there's gotta be a quicker way to work with people without having to do all of this stuff. And so that led me to where I am today with the Advanced Conversational Hypnosis. Okay. And so that is the mode of hypnotherapy that you practice. Yeah.

[00:05:05] Before we learn more about that, I do want to go back to you said that you had some things going on and then that you started with massage there. And there was a book that I read a couple of years back. The body knows the score.

[00:05:21] I believe it's the name of it. It's a great book. Yes. And for me, it was eye opening because I've had different health issues throughout my life. Physical stomach issues and digestive issues and I've had breakout and hives and things like that.

[00:05:42] And learning about the connection between the body and the mind has been eye opening for me. And how your body will manifest certain things that you're not dealing with emotionally. So that to me, that has been life changing for me.

[00:06:05] And I know that a lot of times that mind body connection has been a big thing for me and has been eye opening for me. And learning how my body is interpreting things emotionally if I don't deal with them so. Sure.

[00:06:24] The ACH or what would tell me the ACH modality of hypnotherapy. How does that, how is that different from what we, what lay people consider hypnotherapy? So most people know about traditional hypnotherapy where there's an induction involved where I walk you down some stairs.

[00:06:48] I have because your eyes, I do some suggestibility testing and then I would regress the client into a past situation event time place where their issue that they came to me. With was presenting weren't like where did it first show up?

[00:07:06] And so we would do this regression therapy where we would go back to where the client first created that belief. And so having that clarity is really important, but it didn't necessarily change the outcome. It didn't necessarily change the behavior.

[00:07:23] So in ACH we don't address the mind that way because we figured out that the subconscious mind, while it will give you memories, it won't necessarily tell you why.

[00:07:38] That belief is there or it will not really have any kind of logical reason to have that belief and it's more than happy to keep it even if it does harm.

[00:07:49] And so everything always goes back to safety programs and survival, right mechanisms that happen between the ages of zero and seven. But we also have experiences continuously throughout, you know, the ages of eight and up.

[00:08:06] And depending on what happens in our life with our parents with trauma, with emotions. We store that information in our subconscious mind as a way to always go back and compare what's happening now. So that we can make decisions based on that original safety program.

[00:08:25] And so they can mess with relationships, the way that we eat, the way that we deal with stress. It's primary job is to keep us alive.

[00:08:37] And so in traditional hypnotherapy, I found that therapy was great for clarity but it only addressed the symptom, which was the creation of a problem based on the original root cause.

[00:08:50] So it's almost like a tree growing out of the ground, like the tree has got its roots starting to sprout, it grows up, but then it starts to grow branches and leaves and individual branch and leaves has its own meaning, right.

[00:09:03] So in ACH, when we address problems, we're not addressing the superficial aspect of the problem or addressing the roots. We're going deep down. We're not going to try and cut off a branch because that branch is going to grow back.

[00:09:18] What we want to do is treat the tree at the roots to make sure that the problem goes away permanently or we uproot the tree altogether and plant a new one that is healthier. It's a resource-based therapy, it's an option-based therapy.

[00:09:31] And it helps the clients to go back to the original reason where they've created the issue. There's no... what we see when we try to talk about the symptom and ACH is we spin around the problem and we don't actually get anywhere.

[00:09:48] The client gets frustrated that therapist gets frustrated or the coach gets frustrated.

[00:09:53] But when we go deep down into the roots, there's so much content and context around the problem and you can't help but see the unraveling of the belief and a creation of a new one that is more beneficial to our clients.

[00:10:09] Long term and it's a permanent change versus a superficial change. So it's a very, very powerful modality. Since the focus is to get to the root and alleviate there, is it quicker as a... Yeah, it's quicker. Process. For sure.

[00:10:27] The reason why it's quicker is because we bypass that that resistance of the subconscious mind to keep the program. Much more easily than if we're trying to do something. So in traditional hypnotherapy, but just telling somebody to close their eyes sets up those red flags for the person.

[00:10:47] And what I found when trying to regress people even being a client myself because I wanted to see if I could remove a lot of those issues, emotional issues and trauma issues from my childhood. Because it was really affecting my life in so many negative ways.

[00:11:03] So I just realized like I was so well guarded that I wouldn't allow anybody to get deep enough.

[00:11:09] And the same memories would come up in every session, didn't matter what problem I was addressing money, depression, anxiety, procrastination, like every single time there was the same memories that came up.

[00:11:23] And I thought to myself like okay, everything's tied together. How is it tied together? Like why can't I go deeper than this? Why isn't this problem actually shifting and changing my life?

[00:11:33] And I noticed that it was doing the same thing with my clients. I would get temporary relief but the problem would come back. It's a much simpler, faster way of getting to the unconscious minds, breaking through the barriers without even...

[00:11:48] It's like a security system, you know, like the best spy or like I don't know if thief can somehow crack the code so fast and get into the house.

[00:11:57] Like that's what ACH is. Like you're just going through the back door. Nobody notices you getting in there. There's no way of stopping it. And so the client tends to just go okay you got me. Let's just get those out of here.

[00:12:11] Versus, try to go through the front door and the person, you know, pulling out a gun and going, nope, stay right there. You're not getting any closer to me, calling the police.

[00:12:20] You're not allowed near this, near the security system because it's, it's, it's keeping me safe. You can't have it. I want it. It's mine. A lot of my safety mechanisms. I have adapted as an adult.

[00:12:36] And I realize that even though some of, sometimes they work for what I want them to work for, it's not always the healthiest way the healthiest for me. So yeah.

[00:12:49] So I want to make a shift here because one of the areas that you focus on, it's one of the things that both he and I have had issues with for different reasons.

[00:13:01] But your areas of special, one of your specialty areas is sleep issues. So why is sleep so important to us for both physically and mentally?

[00:13:14] So I feel like there's a lot of misinformation out there around the amount of sleep that people get because every single person is an individual as far as the amount of hours that they need to actually feel rested.

[00:13:28] When we go to sleep, that is the time when our body takes a break from digestion from all these different things that we need to stay healthy.

[00:13:38] And because the mind and the body are connected so intrinsically, if we have enough nights and not being able to sleep, it's going to affect the way that we rest and digest. It's going to affect our nervous system. It's going to affect our mental state.

[00:13:53] When we feel tired, we cannot function. When we can't function, we make a lot of mistakes. We become hard on ourselves. We start to get depressed.

[00:14:02] And it makes life not enjoyable. I can't tell you how many people cancel life because their sleep has affected them so badly that they don't want to be social.

[00:14:12] They don't want to be around other people. They can't tolerate tiny stresses anymore. Let alone the big big stresses of life, like they can't function. There's no coping skills.

[00:14:23] And it just affects you on such a deep level. I had about four, five to six years of not really sleeping while between breastfeeding, working, school, the kids, raising them. They weren't great sleepers, but they slept the way they slept and I'm a,

[00:14:41] I need a lot of sleep. For not sleeping that long, it really started to make me very intolerant to my whole life experience and it made being a parent completely unenjoyable.

[00:14:56] I felt miserable. I felt like I should be enjoying my children more, and I just can't. Life is so hard. So sleep is really important on so many levels. Health wise, but mental health wise it's it's huge.

[00:15:10] And when your mind's not right, your body's not right and one affects the other. So that's why it's all important to sleep well.

[00:15:18] I know I'm a shift worker. My job. We rotate shifts. So there are days, there are weeks where I may work four days in a row. I'm off seven and everybody.

[00:15:32] You get seven days off to this great, you know. And it kind of gets a chance to catch up on sleep and then I'll go to nights.

[00:15:41] And using one of my nights, it's like I'm good if I get four maybe five hours. If I get five hours, I could sit that out of go because you know, it's like you don't want to miss out on life at the same time.

[00:15:54] I don't want to, you know, sleep the day away and feel like I'm just working and sleeping. I'm enjoying anything. Yeah, yeah. So for shift workers, what is the like recommended time that you, you know,

[00:16:09] some other works like that and their periods where I might have to do it, you know, for 10 to 15 days straight depending on how. So what are some recommendations that you can get to a person at kind of deals at lifestyle?

[00:16:26] Well, I think what you said is really important. Like for you personally five hours is what you can tolerate right before things start to affect you more negatively until that negative self starts to kind of seep in and affect you.

[00:16:40] Because really it's the way that we cope with things the way that we tell ourselves how like I can't do this I can't deal with this.

[00:16:47] That negative self talk that makes that particular situation a lot more impossible. Now you have a schedule where you alternate, but a lot of people who works great yard shift, they,

[00:17:00] They, they're working it consistently. They're not alternating and so that becomes just the way that they deal as lifestyle goes. And it's kind of figure out how to maneuver around that and still have a little piece of their life. A lot of them have children young children,

[00:17:17] And so they have to sleep only so many hours a day they want to see their kids and then they got to eat dinner and go back to work. So it really affects your life.

[00:17:27] And the mindset is everything like if you believe that if your somebody doesn't sound need to begin with like a night shift might actually benefit you because daytime is the only time you feel like your body will actually sleep.

[00:17:40] So it's really an individualistic experience some people like me I need some are between eight and ten hours asleep to feel my best consistently.

[00:17:50] I'm not always possible with the life that I have, but I know people that can sleep on four or five hours and they've got so much energy that it doesn't matter what time of day they work. They can just go go go.

[00:18:03] So there's really no one size fits all remedy for stuff like this. I just say get as much sleep as you can.

[00:18:10] Don't be hard on yourself like let yourself know that you're doing your best with the current situation and if you don't like what you're doing or how it's affecting your life.

[00:18:19] A lot of people feel like they can't change it, but that's not the truth. It's just a story we tell ourselves. So find a solution whatever that solution is to make your life easier and better we all have a choice right.

[00:18:31] The thing about the mind is when it gets stuck on something it stays stuck on that until we can finally see that that belief is no longer beneficial. Right. I think with him part of the thing is of course sleeping during the day.

[00:18:47] That's taboo anyways because you should be up in productive and busy. And when he's working night and he's sleeping like he texted me last last week I think it was and you said he was just waking up at two when he was like, can believe I slept that long and like good you needed to sleep that long apparently.

[00:19:08] And so like the mindset you have to be okay with that your body needed rest.

[00:19:15] For individuals who are in situations like that or who don't know if they're hitting that sweet spot what are some things to look for so that you can tell that your body is sleep deprived or that you are not getting enough sleep.

[00:19:34] Just the way you look is the biggest tell. The way you feel is the biggest tell. If you feel like even after getting six, seven eight hours asleep because somebody can sleep eight hours and still feel tired when they wake up. Look at your eyes.

[00:19:49] Around the bags around your eyes. Look at your skin is it peak-ish is it full of color. The way you feel like do you feel like you have enough energy to get through the day or do you feel like you need a nap somewhere in the middle.

[00:20:02] And that might not just be about sleep, it could be about nutrition. It could be about the way that you're eating. It could be about oxidative stress because I you know part of my holistic health coaching involves

[00:20:14] information in the body and reducing that as much as possible so you feel your best both body and mind. And so there's so many different ways.

[00:20:23] Are you exercising at all? Like even in the midst of all of the the weird sleeping are you still getting some kind of cardiovascular workout health is is so important. So it's all about the way you feel and if you think you're getting enough sleep like I slept seven hours last night like that's great for me.

[00:20:42] This is what happened consistently after look at the rest of your life because everything is a conglomeration of everything that you're doing. The way you eat the way you exercise your personality, the way that you cope with stress, everything's involved.

[00:20:55] You know I was getting enough sleep after my kids finally started sleeping in their own beds after I cut post sleeping and I still felt tired but it was because I didn't feel fulfilled in my life either.

[00:21:07] I wasn't working. I was home all the time with my kids and I felt like I needed to be doing something more. And so there was an internal external struggle with, I am not quite happy with this life that I chose.

[00:21:19] So I think I need to start working part-time. I needed to feel like I had a purpose and I needed to feel like I was helping other people not just my kids.

[00:21:29] There's so many different factors. I think sleep is the thing that's easiest to get stuck on with people. But to be honest, when I work with people on the insomnia level with that being my niche, when we go deep into the unconscious it's never about the sleep.

[00:21:45] The sleep is just the symptom of what's going on. It's just something where like I should be resting but my brain is too busy going crazy over these issues that are happening.

[00:21:55] My life that I can't just shut down enough to actually stay asleep or fall asleep or just get that deep heavy restorative sleep that I need. It's been about self-esteem. It's about a person not thinking that they're doing enough in the day.

[00:22:09] And so there's so many different reasons why somebody might not be resting. And so unless you clear that from the subconscious, it's a lifelong battle. So the tips can go anyway for any direction for anybody that you talk to and who's dealing with sleep problems.

[00:22:28] So it's either you need a lifestyle change or you're not happy with where you are and you do accept that and that's something needs to change

[00:22:35] Or you need to change your job because it's affecting your life in a negative way that isn't conducive to your physical or mental health.

[00:22:44] Yeah, we have a lot of conversations with me and the guys at work and you know a lot of times special nights were comparing well even during the day were comparing how many hours were slept.

[00:22:58] It's crazy because one of my nights I can actually sleep more than one of my days because I'm running. It's an awkward time for my brain to shut down and it's crazy because like, oh, if I get in the bed before 10 o'clock, let's just say

[00:23:14] I have to get up at 4 o'clock in the morning from on days and people might be like, well let's not have enough time to sleep at all but it's like, I can't shut my brain now.

[00:23:24] Even if I do, let's say if I get to sleep at 9 or whatever, I'm waking up at 2 o'clock in the morning. I'm going to schedule. Yeah, we're going to buy wait till 11 or 30 to go to sleep. I can sleep all the way to sleep. I'm asleep by that.

[00:23:41] Yeah, but I'm sleepy by that time. When I hit the pillow, I see him and he's got the iPad and sometimes I wake up and look and he's with the iPad. It's a roll over closure eyes again. Yep. That's just, it's a body's on a clock.

[00:24:03] Yeah, yeah, I find difficult myself but I guess because it's society we're used to, you know, here and well, you get eight hours of sleep and that's what you need to survive and be most folks. Not true. And so this is probably not true.

[00:24:19] And the professional say, hey, you know, me eight hours, you just need good. And if I'm time to get. You know, in Europe, they sleep for about four or five hours at night and then they have a cesta of afternoon.

[00:24:35] They sleep less at night and then they nap during the day. So it's different for everybody. That works for their that culture like lives life that way. But here in the States, all we hear is if you don't get eight hours of sleep, then that's a problem

[00:24:52] for you but that's not true. Like I said, I need nine hours like nine hours, not eight, not seven, seven. I can function on but I don't feel my best unless I've slept at least nine hours. So everybody's different.

[00:25:05] My husband can sleep four to five hours and he does the same thing as you. He just, the Canadian rhythm is just that way. And it works for him. And there are some days where he will sleep in. And he doesn't give himself a hard time about it.

[00:25:18] He'll see if he can go all that felt good. Like he needed that. So it's really just a matter of what you're telling yourself, what you're leaving. In the Western medical industry, they treat everybody as if it's a one-size-fits-all. And we can't, we couldn't possibly do that.

[00:25:35] I have clients who in the holistic in my health coaching. You know, they're talking to me about cholesterol levels and how their cholesterol is 206. And I'm like, but you're in your 70s. You're not 50 years old. You're not 40 years old.

[00:25:49] You're not to 20, which, you know, okay, that's not so great. But everything else has been checked and there's no issues with plotting or whatever in any other part of your body. So how can 206 be bad for you when you're feeling fantastic?

[00:26:02] It doesn't make any sense to believe that a piece of like a number on a piece of paper. It's a, yeah, for every single person, one of my insomnia clients. Everything was about numbers in her session.

[00:26:16] It was about what I should do, what I have to do amount of hours I need to save. And this and that and that was keeping her up on her weight. You know, like all these things had to be a certain way.

[00:26:27] And I'm like, but how is that true? That's not very familiar. Yeah. So it isn't that such a strange belief that you have to be like every other person on the planet. And so it's just a weird conversation. I am a big, the should.

[00:26:47] That's one of my big downfalls is the shirt of this. I should then and I'm finally getting to a point of just focusing on. I need to feel good person foremost. And if I am shooting myself, that doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel good.

[00:27:08] So I'm going to stop doing that and I'm going to do that make me feel good. And once I started to think that way, well then it's easier to eat better because I feel better when I eat better.

[00:27:19] It's easy to me to work out because when I'm active, I feel better. But as long I'm telling myself what I should do, I'm a little bit rebellious. And so it's like a pole. That's that's the way the unconscious mind works. You have children, right?

[00:27:35] You remember when they were little and you said, you need to do this and they go, no. That's the unconscious mind. It does not agree with you. It's not going to let you do the shits.

[00:27:46] The imperatives don't work with the unconscious mind that needs to must have to. Should, you know, it doesn't work because it's not ideal for the programs that are there in place. So we're happier when say I can do that. Do I want to do that?

[00:28:03] Like there's a big difference. What can I do to make my life easier? And so a lot of times in a session when somebody says I have to or I need to or I should, who says? My question is who says? Who's belief is that?

[00:28:20] Is that your belief or does that belief belong to somebody else? Because if it belongs to somebody else, that's not your belief and that's why you won't be motivated enough to change. Right. Right. Before we move, we're relieved. We're in the neighborhood that had homeowners association.

[00:28:40] So, you know, if you would ask your grass get kind of whack, you know, you might give them a letter, you know, saying hey, you can cut your grass with them.

[00:28:48] So we moved over here, it's older, it's a subdivision, older people in close to retirement age and everyone around us. So I was telling the neighbor when he first moved in about, you know, H.O.A., it's not so every now and then she'd be like,

[00:29:03] I'm gonna live here and have you. Just like this, this, my mind, I'm feeling like we'll grass get a little, I need to go ahead and cut it. I need to do this and I need to do that, need to wash car.

[00:29:15] This, it's amazing how you can sell yourself. You need to do something or you should and you still don't do it. Like you're saying, you're not. Need versus want, right? Neetu versus want to do this. I want to keep my grass looking nice.

[00:29:28] That's a totally different feeling in that. Right. And for me, if I start with the shudders or needs, I need to do this and then I don't do it. Well, then after that, I feel bad about not doing it.

[00:29:41] A lot of girls, you know, I'm treating myself bad, I'm saying bad things to myself. Yeah. I needed to do this and I got myself in say based on what? Oh, who says, right? It's, it's the most, who's telling me that I need to do this.

[00:29:58] And sometimes, sometimes what I've realized is that it's from childhood. It's from the old thought patterned and I have to stop myself in a, You're a grownup now. You don't have to do this. That 100% true, 100% true for sure.

[00:30:16] Connection between mind and body is just it's amazing when you start to think. It can control that you can have over your body when we simply work on the mind. It's all about doing stuff for joy, right? Not, but it's your house. It's your life. Right.

[00:30:37] Your circumstances, you know, you're the one who has to be happy with the way life is going. I stayed in bed all day yesterday. I woke, I didn't wake up until late. My husband came up with the stairs. He was laughing at me.

[00:30:49] I said, I'm staying here all day if he started laughing. We got nothing to do. We got nowhere to go. Do what you gotta do. And I said, you know, I've realized when I woke up this morning, like, I haven't slept this late in a long time.

[00:31:00] And you want to know what? I have a lot of things to do. But I'm not doing anything today. I'm staying in bed. I'm just going to rest and enjoy myself. And he goes, fair enough, you know, like, just come down and eat everyone. No, no, no.

[00:31:14] Yeah, it's a great thing. This comes out. This comes out. Give yourself permission to just relax. How do that? I'll be on the off day. Yeah. And then I ain't got a bed to, like, a lot of the clock today.

[00:31:27] I just, you know, and then I went and living room and sat in watch more to you. That's so good. That's right. Yeah, and that's enough. Well, it won't last in that I've learned. And thankfully, I learned from other people's mistakes really well. Yeah.

[00:31:44] And I know that if you don't listen to your body, your body will get very loud. And so last weekend, he was not feeling well coming into the weekend. And that Saturday morning, he said, I think I need to go be seen.

[00:32:00] It's a man asking to go to the doctor. So yes, we are going to go. And I told him, so we went and he's trying to make sure he doesn't have an ear infection or sinus infection or anything. Which he did.

[00:32:13] And so when we got home, he's still not feeling his best. And we were supposed to be recording that day. We had rescheduled and everything. So we don't have anything to do. And he sits on the couch and he's thinking of things to do.

[00:32:27] And I finally told him, no, you're going to get in bed. You're body needs rest. And that's what he does. And he sat there with his little hope down for a little bit. Yes, she did. You said that. I'm so scared for a little bit.

[00:32:47] But he sat there and I know that like I said, I learned from other people's mistakes. And I have a friend who she's had some significant health issues. And I'm like, your body is telling you to stop and you're not listening.

[00:33:01] So it's amazing that that mind and body connection. And to be able to be proactive about it and to address the mind and to see and feel the changes in the body is powerful. So the work that you do with people is it's needed.

[00:33:23] Or among most, as we dig it out in our podcast, during we're meeting a bunch of fabulous people like yourself who are just doing some great things.

[00:33:35] And I'm almost at preview to say that we need to create some legislation for, you know, where you have health benefits and stuff on your job.

[00:33:46] We need to create some coaching benefits because everybody is like moving in the same directions and some places moving in different directions and everybody has different goals.

[00:33:59] Everybody has different pathways, but for the most part we're dealing with the same frustrations, the same child traumas we do not the same issues.

[00:34:08] And I see that people like yourself are doing the things that can help even the person, you know, might not think well, I'll see you might not need, you know, see you many. Oh, they need more. They need more. They need more. Right. They need more.

[00:34:24] People to deal with, you know. Yeah. More decisions to make, more obligations, more should, more imperative, right? They have to live their life a certain way to keep up what they're doing.

[00:34:37] There are people who will just say, well, you know what I'm fine, I don't need all that. I think too that there's within the last couple of years there's been this big push about mental health awareness.

[00:34:49] And I think that we need to understand that that doesn't necessarily mean mental health disorder or that there's a problem, right? Right. You need it's just like your physical health, you don't, well, a lot of people don't necessarily gain weight and then work out.

[00:35:09] You know, people work out to prevent gaining weight. You know that your body needs nutrients so you eat certain things. So even with mental health, you may be, and for me personally, I was, I was fine without therapy. I think I would have been fine.

[00:35:29] But with therapy, I've been able to, I've been able to excel. I've been able to go from just, you know, existing to living into being more aware of things and more aware of the power that I have over myself.

[00:35:49] So it's the same type of thing with coaching and with reaching out to professionals to get that edge to improve. It doesn't have, it doesn't mean that something is necessarily wrong. It just means you want to understand what we need to write.

[00:36:06] Yeah, I think, I think that's also an issue in as far as like not having legislation for having coaching or some type of therapy as part of the health insurance, right? It is about enhancing your life.

[00:36:23] It's about helping remove the blockages and the things that keep us stuck in the same old saying like you said. It's not about staying the same and becoming stagnant, life is forever changing.

[00:36:35] And so if we're not changing with it, we can really feel the difference in our life experience. And I think that enhancement is so great as a word to describe that's what therapy does.

[00:36:47] And so if you can see yourself in a different way and you can take more responsibility for the life choices that you make.

[00:36:56] And that is a major empowerment factor that a lot of people don't have without that without seeing that they are the ones who are responsible for whatever happens to them and how their life is going.

[00:37:07] And I think we get so stuck in believing that we have to stay in a job or we have to be in a relationship or that life has to be this way.

[00:37:17] That we end up harming ourselves in the long half things and so I think, you know there's this huge movement in the mental health and wellness fields. Yes, there is a lot more mental health awareness. And I think we as people tend to be of people of extremes.

[00:37:33] And so rather than trying to stay in the logical place where we deal with the illogical, we tend to either go one side or the other. And somebody in the therapy industry, the mental wellness industry, coaching or whatever, hypnotherapy.

[00:37:49] These are the people that, oh my god, there's so many people doing this work now. They're designed to help make you balance. And it's like, that's what therapy is all about. That's what coaching is all about.

[00:37:59] Bringing balance back into your life so that you're not in that extreme experience and that you can actually find a way to live and work and everything coexist together in a way that it is beneficial and that you feel like you have a purpose.

[00:38:16] So which is missing in society. I think and that's why everybody so polarized right now. Right.

[00:38:24] And well, if people could somehow catch on to that and focus on the self improvement piece and we're the purpose in that being open to other ideas, I think it would be so it's such a better place to be.

[00:38:44] And I know people would try to just be open because I know coaching even when she approached me a couple of years ago about coaching. You know what I was like, what is that? She's like, well, you know, it's kind of like close to therapy.

[00:39:01] I need to see something else. And I'm going to type out and see as an opposite. Actually, but. Your mind needs proof. Yeah, I do. I do. Like, okay, what is that?

[00:39:11] You know, but I think still a lot of people don't know even in my my field for when I mentioned coaching people like with us that you know people just instantly think we need to go talk somebody you need to therapy. See, indeed. Yeah.

[00:39:26] And there's a negative stigma even with that. Yeah, it is. There's huge right. And like I said, if we could just understand that everyone is dealing with something. Yeah. And we are human beings. We are meant to be social.

[00:39:44] And so the idea of going to someone else to get help through whatever it is you're dealing with is it's okay. It needs to be normal. There's a little something. It's not about it. Yeah. People you know and pinpoint everything wrong. And then I'm like, right.

[00:40:00] Okay, like a Joe like right. Because we need that outside. We need the outside. We need the outside perspective. We need the outside perspective. You know, we don't have the ability to screw. And ours are lives in that way because of that safety program that's in place.

[00:40:17] There's a reason why the conscious mind which is our problem solving mind for like our current circumstances things are going to like, okay, this problem's here and how do I fix it right? But when it comes to the unconscious mind, that's the biggest part of the mind.

[00:40:33] It runs 93 to 97% of what we do on a daily basis. And if it has a program, it's like a like a computer. Right? If that program that's been installed in the computer is set a certain way. It needs to be changed at that level.

[00:40:49] You need somebody to come in and like take that old program out and help you replace a new one, right? Because that old program is not working, right?

[00:40:59] But I think the reason why we have so much so it's so easy for us to look at other people and see everything that's wrong. But we can't do it with ourselves is because our conscious and our unconscious mind don't communicate. Once got its purpose, right?

[00:41:13] And that's our daily ins and outs, our safety programs, our survival programs, our communication programs. And then we have our fixer mind and because the two don't actually work together, you solve problems that makes it so much harder to but the issues.

[00:41:32] Those unconscious moments are fleeting. They're very, what's the word? Like in a session, they only pop out once in a while. You have to be a really great catcher of unconscious moments in order to see where the actual issue, like where those issues are coming from.

[00:41:49] And that's why I think it's really important being a trainer of advanced conversational hypnosis. I got licensed last year at the beginning of last year to actually train people in one of only 32 people.

[00:42:00] And the entire world who can teach people this modality, it just had a master class two weeks ago. And I'm helping psychiatrists and coaches in Canada and like all these different people get better at spotting that unconscious work because unconscious moments because those are what help us to

[00:42:18] actually change our situation, change our beliefs. It helps to see those programs aren't actually really that helpful.

[00:42:26] And so I have another class coming up in June. I'm going to post another nice class through Zoom and help people who are professionals and whether it's hypnot therapy and L.P. There are like psychiatrists, psychology, coaching, I'm helping people to get better at helping other people.

[00:42:48] They want faster results. They want permanent results. They want epic breakthroughs. They want to start living their life now and you can't help somebody when you're working with them over and over and over again around the symptom.

[00:43:01] So if someone is interested in the upcoming master class or interested in other services that you offer, where can they find you?

[00:43:11] So I have a website like transformation solutions.com. My call on the links for scheduling is on there. You can book a strategy called with me complimentary. And we can talk about like if you're a professional and you're looking to revolutionize your practice.

[00:43:28] Charge more for your work, work, less save time, get rid of all the time wasting preparation stuff. That's the method methodology that I work with in that I teach.

[00:43:37] And then if you would like to work with me, all of my social media links are on there. You can email me through the website and you can contact me also through the county link as well.

[00:43:48] Set up your complimentary strategy call before you even work with me. So I can find out what is your problem. What are you looking for help in and talk about what I do because this therapy, this coaching, this practice of hypnosis is so rapid compared to anything that I've ever done.

[00:44:06] That like with my insomnia clients, getting them to sleep in one session, one hour to an hour and a half session.

[00:44:15] Even if they've had a lifetime of insomnia, I've had a client that didn't sleep for 35 plus years and literally within, I think the night after I worked with her, she's stuck through the night.

[00:44:30] So this is somebody who would maybe sleep one or two hours over the course of two weeks and not get any sleep. Croning a professional business and a household and kids. Right, and that is self is life changing. One session, I mean, come on.

[00:44:48] I think that our society is especially with entrepreneurship and business. Our society is driven more towards that now. And then people are just like, okay, because you have so many of these gurus out here financial gurus who put commercials on Instagram and TikTok and Facebook.

[00:45:14] They're telling you, they come up with ads. What are you doing? Why are you not doing this and you know how to pin that stigmatism in this life now you've got to stay on the go.

[00:45:25] That's dangerous, you've got to stay busy, you've got to keep going. If you're sleeping, you're doing nothing. I don't want to work that hard. Right, that hustle mentality like that. I would be there. You don't have like chasing the bag. That's the new terminology. It's like,

[00:45:42] If you're chasing the bag, the bag is not to be there. Just work towards it. Walk towards it. Yeah. Yeah. You'll sleep when you die. No, I'm sorry. I like my sleep. I don't care if it's going to take up a 10%. Yeah, yeah.

[00:45:57] 20% of my life. I don't care. I want rest. I don't know. I want to be able to be with my family, homeschool my kids and build my business. I want to work less and I want to be able to charge more money.

[00:46:08] And I can do because my clients are getting multiple, multiple outcomes after one session. It's not just about the insomnia. The fact that we do root cause work changes so many different directions of their life. It's not it's not just a one shot deal and done.

[00:46:25] And it can be done rapidly where people who are in therapy for one year, two years, 20 years. They're not solving anything. They're getting clarity. They are they've gotten ear. They're becoming co-dependent on somebody else to give them solutions.

[00:46:41] But guess what? You were the one who created all of the problems based on your survival program. So you're the one who has to be able to fix it. And I'm not going to fix it. I don't claim to fix my clients. My clients are 100% doing the work.

[00:46:55] But they need to be 100% in it when they give me a call and walk and or they walk through my door. They have to be ready. And that's the biggest step for people. It's the it's the being ready.

[00:47:08] It's the whatever investment it takes financially and you know that you're willing to have for yourself. And it's that I'm at the precipice. I'm ready to step across the like into the next room or I'm ready to jump off the ledge like I'm ready for the change.

[00:47:27] And that's a huge part of people getting the results. That's like that's a good percentage of the work that's being done. But the second that you open yourself up to working with somebody because you are really ready to shift and change.

[00:47:39] This work is there's there's nothing it can't do because you're the one who's solving all your own problems. You're the one who becomes confident in self sufficient. You're the one who builds your self esteem. You're the one who gets better coping mechanisms put in place.

[00:47:53] You're the one who chose all of that. I can't do that for you. I'm not going to fix your problem. Nobody can. So, you know, when you are ready, that's when things need to happen and people are ready all the time.

[00:48:04] But they're just not getting the proper work done and they're spinning. They're spinning and it's frustrating. And I don't know about you guys but yeah, I mean we live in a very fast-paced world. I don't want to sit with somebody every week or every month for a year.

[00:48:19] I want to get in. It's probably going to get out and I know that's a real good reasonable but it's not with this modality that we have now. So, it's a practitioner.

[00:48:29] I'm sure that to see the clients be successful in that quick amount of time and to, you know, transform their life in that quick amount of time has to be satisfied. So fulfilling. Right. Right. I cry. I cry for my clients. I cry for my clients.

[00:48:45] I cry for my clients because we have a lot of people in the industry and I have a lot of people in the industry that are going to be emotional because you know they've been in pain for so long on so many different levels.

[00:48:49] I mean, I'm not using ACH with the current client that I have for holistic health coaching, but this woman wasn't even enjoying her life and her husband thought that she was giving up and she's in her 70s

[00:49:00] and she was diagnosed with a health condition that no doctor would help her with they kept telling her that she didn't have what she knew she had. down with her for a half an hour to an hour once every two weeks. We're only on our, I've

[00:49:17] won more session with her out of six sessions and in the first six weeks she lost 12 pounds. She's feeling amazing. She's so dedicated to herself and her husband even said to me he's like

[00:49:31] I don't know, he's like you know you're doing a great job with her because I've seen such a shift in just the way she's walking, the way she feels, her motivation, her mood, everything's been

[00:49:43] so different. He's like in such a short period of time. He's like thank you so much. I'm like she was willing right. Yeah, right. She was willing and all I had to do was find out what she could do for

[00:49:55] herself and start helping her implement that. You know people don't feel like they have the ability to help themselves. They just need somebody who can kind of push themselves out of their comfort zone,

[00:50:06] just enough to see that they're purely capable. ACH does that. My type of coaching does that. They're both very similar in the way that I help people. It's it's about you knowing that you

[00:50:18] have the ability to change your own life because you do and it's I just pull on your intrinsic nature of being a fixer. Right. That's my test. And it also I would imagine that your clients

[00:50:31] that's going to empower them even more because you are stressing to them that it's them putting in the work and they are putting in the work and seeing results so not only are they increasing their confidence

[00:50:43] in you, but they're increasing their confidence in themselves. It's a lifetime lesson. Right, absolutely, absolutely. The lifetime lesson. So once they finally figure out that like they're purely capable of doing the thing that it takes to get them soft to the place where they want to be,

[00:51:01] their whole life shifts because now they think if I could do it here, I could do it in this other area of my life as well. And it's just a matter of building up that that confidence is so important

[00:51:11] because when we doubt ourselves we can't get anything done. We just completely shut ourselves off from being successful people. And so it's just mind shift is so important and confidence is so important in working with people. Right. That's been it, Dan, Regina. I'll tell you

[00:51:31] this has been an enlightening conversation. Pleasure. I'm encouraging to listeners, look, contact Regina, contact somebody. Oh, I think you do some therapy because now we we're going to see what you mean. You may think your life is on top of the world right now and

[00:51:52] you got everything figured out but we all need it. Yeah, we can't even even the coaches that I work with have their own coaches. They know it's important to stay on track and to stay out of their own way

[00:52:06] and yeah. So it doesn't matter who you work with, I would love to help you like that's it's this is definitely my my purpose. This is where I'm supposed to be. I'm supposed to help people

[00:52:17] help themselves and help their clients. So I'm really fortunate to have found that, you know? And a big part of the collective consciousness shifts that's happening with people. So yeah, we thank you again so much. Thank you so much for that. Of course. This conversation has helped

[00:52:36] us as well as our listeners. So thank you for your attack. Thank you for having me. I'm so happy to be here. Thanks for joining us on this episode of Beyond I Do Park is. Please make sure to like

[00:52:55] this episode and also subscribe to our podcast. You can also find us on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube at Beyond I Do Park has. And until next time, we will hallowed your