The Power of Words

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[00:00:36] We're just simply sharing your how we've navigated through our marriage. Now, on with the show. All right. Welcome back to The Beyond I Do podcast on this episode. We have a wonderful guest with us. We have Jazzy the mindset coach who is a certified mindset coach and author,

[00:01:09] a poet, a speaker and a beautiful spirit inside and out. So we welcome you. We are so excited to have you full disclosure. We've had a meet and greet before this. And I feel like we're close friends now. We've missed you.

[00:01:30] We've been looking forward to recording so we can speak to you again. We enjoyed it so much. So thank you for being with us. And if you could tell the listeners a little bit about yourself, a little bit about your journey,

[00:01:42] and a little bit about what it is that you do now. Absolutely. No, thank you all. I agree. I didn't know if it was going to be weird to reach out to you all before today. So I did. But no, we look. I think the connection.

[00:01:58] We've been following. We've been looking at the pearls that you've dropped the pearls of wisdom. I told you I got you book. So we just like you said, it's the type of thing where you meet someone.

[00:02:13] Like, oh, we kind of hit it off and then you like, well, I don't want to do our great job again or do so we get weird there. We got you. Told you we're house friends.

[00:02:23] And definitely appreciate you all in this opportunity to be on here with you all. And it's interesting because anytime I do a podcast, any type of interview, I'm reluctant to talk about myself because my entire journey, I have realized that is not about me.

[00:02:42] So my introduction to myself, I would just keep it. Cuten sure. So I have been a certified mindset coach since I actually started the business of it. Of my set drop in 2020, but I've actually been coaching since 2013. I always been coach.

[00:03:01] Did know that I was a coach, but my entire life, I have been the go-to person, you know, for advice of just people going to pick my brain. I'm always open and willing to share whatever I have. But throughout my journey, I've taught myself.

[00:03:16] So I think the main thing with mindset for me is that any of the tools that I have acquired 90% of I've taught myself, I had to learn how to maneuver through life. I had to learn how to deal with trauma. I had to learn how to recognize trauma.

[00:03:30] First and foremost, I had to recognize it for myself in order to see what steps I need to take in life in order to go back and pull people in with me and say, hey, there is a dark side.

[00:03:41] Let's acknowledge that, but there's also a light side on the opposite end. So even when my poetry, my poetry, I can write away anything, but my daughter, my poetry is about inspiration and motivation and empowerment just to show people that yeah, we

[00:03:57] go through things in life, things get tough, but we have to look at the upside of it, the optimistic side of it. So my goal and my purpose, I feel is just to be that person, be that voice for someone

[00:04:11] else just to show them that they too have voice. Right, right. That's the idea of that positive mindset for years for me. And I still to an extent, I would say, I'm not an optimist or pessimist, I'm a realist.

[00:04:30] And so I realized a few years back that in that realism was a lot of pessimism. And there's a way to be realistic about things and still have an optimistic viewpoint versus being real about things and feeling like you're stuck.

[00:04:51] And so the idea of a growth mindset and those things, that's something that over the past few years, I had to learn the hard way, had to do some inner work and self-depletion and be honest about myself. So I can relate to that part.

[00:05:12] Absolutely, even with the word stuck, I have a few words that are peep words of mine if you can say, we're never stuck. We may be at a pause, we may be at a pivotal point.

[00:05:26] But we're not stuck because we have the power of choice, but are you choosing to stand there? Are you choosing to take a step forward or you choose to take a step back? But we're not stuck. We're never stuck. That's a hard lesson to learn.

[00:05:40] When you take responsibility and accountability for things, it's hard, but it's empowering. And so that's something that I'm still, I struggle with from time to time because it's easy to point fingers outside of self. And sometimes I'm not as perfect as I'd like to think I am.

[00:06:05] I might be the next issue. Let me stop for a moment and think about that. Yeah, that's a hard truth. So within the growth and the journey, how do you get to a point where when that feeling of stuck comes?

[00:06:23] How do you get to a point to be able to pull yourself out of that? Honestly, I ask myself what is the bigger picture and I always go back to the spiritual being of life and it's overall existence because we get so caught up in everything else.

[00:06:41] But what is our purpose? Like, what is the even reason for anything that we experience? So I'll go to the spiritual end. Like, what is my spiritual lesson? Well, am I learning from this? What am I gathering? What am I supposed to be teaching from this? Right.

[00:06:57] So in that, I feel like there's a, we're connected. We're connected to people where supposed to be able to rely on other humans, you're supposed to meet each other and work together. And so even in that there's still the individual responsibility

[00:07:20] to make sure you're working on self so that when that need arises for someone else, you're there for someone else in the advice person. Absolutely, because we all hear for a reason, like why do we connect? I don't necessarily believe in coincidences.

[00:07:36] I think everybody crosses paths for particular reasons. If not no one will exist on Earth, like it's impossible to even survive in on any level without each other. It's impossible. Right. That's one thing. As we've been, you know, meeting with people and

[00:07:54] and we have these amazing people from all over the world that we're meeting and talking to, you know, a lot of the messages are the same and I don't know if that's because we need to hear it because the listeners need to hear or, well, it is true.

[00:08:10] It's because there's a universal truth. And that is that we are here to help and serve and to use those gifts for the uplifting of each other. Sometimes that's hard. I get wrapped up in myself a little bit.

[00:08:28] But I recognize it and realize it and then I know it's time to be careful. I think also that that's part of the journey. This is a podcast about marriage and how do you have this marriage?

[00:08:45] Part of having this social marriage is being the success individually as well as a couple. And how do you do that? And there you have to start working on the inside, you know, to put outside to be a value. So I mean, that's how we help each other.

[00:09:04] You know, right. So that's why I would meet all these individuals who are mine set coaches and spiritual healers. And you know, so I see it coming together. So it's not in vain at all. Thank you. Thank you for that.

[00:09:30] So tell us a little bit about. So if I reach out to you and I'm like, look, I don't know what's going on. I'm stuck. What do I do? How do you advise? How do you work with your clients to get them through

[00:09:45] that bad phase? You know, I have a gift of asking the right questions. I have a lot of discernment and intuition about myself that I know what questions to eggs to get my clients to answer their own questions. I do offer some suggestions or different perspectives

[00:10:07] but for the most part, it is in the questioning you have to know what to ask. Right. And that self-awareness or actualization and realization. I'm sure is more powerful than someone telling

[00:10:22] you will this is how it is. So then I start to realize that it is me. That's a heart lesson. So then what do I do to now move forward from? Okay. It's you. It is you. So now what do I do

[00:10:42] to start making steps to move forward and to get unstuck? Yeah, definitely have to put in a work with the action. So a lot of my clients I do suggest journaling. I have what I call,

[00:10:55] I don't like to say homework. I like to say power work because it's on you to be empowered. It depends on situation of course but definitely journaling. Definitely some sort of action. You know, say you felt like you lost yourself and I could suggest like,

[00:11:12] and that happy is moment of your life what were you doing? You know, you could say, oh, I was painting. You know, so I made suggest today like two days. Like in this moment, go out and get to,

[00:11:22] you know, camp on some paint or finger paint just something to get you back into your happy place. So of course it depends on the client, but after you have the self-realization like

[00:11:33] it's time to get to work. Like you really have to put into action because you can talk all day. I can talk all day. I can listen to you all day, but then what is the action? You have to put action behind

[00:11:45] it. Let's see. This is what Sunday. So this week and towards the end of the week, the weekend, I have been at the bottom end of that slump. And so what is it that you can suggest when those

[00:11:59] moments of? I can think about a time when I was happy. I can engage in that activity, but I'm still so focused on whatever the issue is that it's difficult for me to pull myself out of it.

[00:12:14] Do you have suggestions for how to get back to that place of being okay? I'm not going to share the code and say that it's just a miracle appeal to take. You won't have still have those thoughts, but it's a mastering your mind and

[00:12:33] where those thoughts are going. So if you have a thought that you feel like you're slipping in the slump, you have to have a counter response. So if you're like all I'm not in a good mood, okay, what's

[00:12:42] going to put me in a good mood? Like maybe put on some go one of my go-to's is 90s music. That was the better like hands that I pulled. Yes. But on some 90s music, and I get in my groove, but then if that thought coming back in,

[00:12:57] okay, that's not what I want to be. Let me focus back on the music or let me do something else. And again, I personally is a lot because I am a writer. The journaling has shifted me from mood to

[00:13:10] mood more times than I can count. Now even if you start writing, you start asking yourself, why am I in this mood? Why am I telling stuck? Again, it's knowing the right questions to act

[00:13:22] to get the response that you need. Right. Right. When I started with therapy, so prior to that, I wanted to journal, I wanted to be like the people on TV. Dear diary and you write every night,

[00:13:34] and I love journals and notebooks, and I would buy them and then start and about all I don't know, three days in, I'm done. I don't have anything to say, but when I started therapy,

[00:13:47] it was, I was journaled for my, to learn the process, my emotions. And so whenever I had these emotional phases or even for me there were situations where I should have, I should have

[00:14:04] felt something and I didn't. So those were the times that I would journal. So I had a specific purpose for it and that made it easier for me because I didn't feel like I'm just writing to

[00:14:16] write. I was writing with a purpose. So that was one of the things that helped me learn how to check in with my emotions because I had buried them, way deep down. And I didn't like them.

[00:14:31] So that helped me to see on paper into process and to learn how to work with those things. I can relate to the journal, and that has been helpful for me. I don't journal. You don't journal, but what do you do? All right.

[00:14:53] Here's the thing, here's the thing about that. Writing is not the only form of journaling. You could do a video journal, you could do audio journal. It's just been able to be expressive to get your thoughts, feelings of emotions out. Right. You write what?

[00:15:11] I'm still amazed after what? 20s I'm still amazed and we have rubber-made containers full of notebooks of lyrics where he writes. It amazes me that someone can have that much. Mainly reps, but how do you make that much? Right. I've gone back and looked at all of

[00:15:39] the stuff and it's like whatever's corner is here, but that's what I was thinking at the time. Some of my current projects. And I've just started really getting back into it about three years ago

[00:15:52] just trying to learn how to make music and things like that. So looking back at this stuff, I'm cool to some of my old stuff and it's my current stuff. That's like here. You're in a different

[00:16:04] place. And I know what I know it all connects. I know what all connects. It blows my mind because not only does he have that up here to write. He talks a lot to me.

[00:16:18] Oh, good. Hello. Where do you keep all the words? Yeah, that is the gift. And so when you decide if you want to get back into it and start recording, please let me know. I would love to collaborate.

[00:16:31] We'll put that because for our anniversary he walks in. He says, come here. We go to the car and he connects to the car and he's played a song that he had written for me

[00:16:45] for my anniversary. And then two weeks ago, my best friends dad passed away and we were going down for to be with the family and he said, I want to, I want you to hear something and he starts

[00:16:59] playing this song and I immediately know he's talking about me so I start boohooing. First first is over and then I start listening to the chorus and I'm like, wait a minute. And the next verse

[00:17:11] he starts rapping and it's about my son. And the next verse is about one of our daughters and there's a verse for each of our kids. So it's there and it's amazing to me how he puts things

[00:17:30] into words and now he produces the music and things like that. So it's an amazing talent. But we're not here for him. And stuff, we're going to put a pin in there.

[00:17:47] And then we go have that part too. That's right. That's an inch look like I said, I started reading two pockets. I love him but two pockets I we were supposed to be together. We were supposed to be together.

[00:18:02] Went to a point that I was living with the cousin of mine and he and I were like siblings. We were both only children, our parents were first cousins. So we were, we had our teenage years

[00:18:15] were together and I moved in with him momentarily and we're in Atlanta being young and free and he walks into the apartment one night and I'm in the living room in the dark crying. He said what's wrong in the city is gone. He said oh, it's too bug.

[00:18:39] And he laughed at me which made me cry harder because why are you laughing at me so I'm easy through. I cried as well. It was a beautiful song that lived. It was people looking at you, Jack.

[00:19:03] It was crying as well and we had to go home and the manager was like what's wrong with my husband? I'm like, I would think about people like standing in like when they stand in line for the

[00:19:19] standing the cups and things like that. And then I have to remember standing in line because when all lies on me came out it was a midnight release and I was standing in line at the

[00:19:30] mall waiting for that seat. This is why we shall not judge. That's right because I get it. I still more than me so I get it. I get it. I was waiting so I could burn it. Whatever. I'm used to body. I'm used to whatever.

[00:19:53] Maybe so. So, okay so you've talked about the writing. Tell us a bit. Have you always been a writer where you would kid writing or is that something that you learned along the way as a tool?

[00:20:07] I actually been writing since I was about eight years old and I come. I do come from a family writer. Both my parents write more so my father from my father's side like majority of my

[00:20:16] first cousins are all writers. My siblings are writers. So I was say genetically inherited that portion. But now I've been writing and I started writing short stories, course, fourths, three. I was always the type of child in school. I loved doing essays, record, like all of that.

[00:20:37] I was all of all that. So I've been writing for a very long time, but with my poetry, I was afraid to share. So I didn't actually start sharing my work until 2009.

[00:20:50] And that was the first time I had ever done this, I opened my poetry. So I just been writing, you know, hiding a lot of people didn't even know that I had that particular writing is just

[00:21:02] in me, like I don't know how not to write. I feel these same wakers like, I mean, I put rapist poetry. My teenage years, I was in a couple of singing groups, you know,

[00:21:17] that was like the thing, boys and me and Jody C. Daye, everybody wanted to be one of them. And so I kept writing throughout the years. Just like every now and then I felt something down

[00:21:28] and I ain't gonna do that with an impulse or something, listening to like you said, I got notebooks. I can go back to and kind of just look back over. But it is a relaxing thing and it takes you

[00:21:40] to another place. So even if you have an issue going on, it helps to write even the frustration down sometimes I might write the frustration that's still down, you know, and it helps to just

[00:21:52] get it out. So I see you're pulling it differently. I write poetry and short stories, but that fear, that fear, my mom's passing prompted me to write a poem that I posted because I

[00:22:15] didn't have anything else to communicate at that point, but there is a fear there, and I don't even know what it is, what the fear is for me. We gone back and forth with we were going somewhere

[00:22:32] out of town and so we stayed at Atlanta at a hotel because we had an early flight and so we're sitting in the hotel restaurant and there to men sitting together at the bar and we would take turns

[00:22:48] going back and forth. We had a whole story about those two men in and why they were there in the back story. So we've gone back and forth and played around with that, but

[00:23:00] yeah, a lot of times we'd been building it out like saying, you know, just pick two people just randomly, you know, say right, we're here, they just got done fussing about such. It's actually

[00:23:10] just creating their life as a story. And our son, our son is a magnificent writer and it's funny because he writes, he wraps our daughter sings and she gets frustrated because all of

[00:23:29] us write and she wants to write and I'm like if I had that voice, I wouldn't even talk. I'd sing all the time. People would be like, why did she do that because I can't? That's why

[00:23:42] don't have that there you go. There you go. That's why I don't have that gift because I would act right. That's why I don't have that the same voice and the body that I want because I'm not

[00:23:54] going to act right with it. I'm not going to act right. I'm an act for me. I'm sorry. So one of the things that when you were asked about topics to discuss, you talked about

[00:24:11] spiritual healing and I believe in our meeting group, we talked a little bit about childhood trauma and healing from these things. So tell us a little bit about how the growth mindset and all these

[00:24:28] things come into play when it comes to that healing journey. Well first before I get fully into that let me share how my spiritual self awareness awakening came into play. So in 2005, I

[00:24:41] paralyzed. I was paralyzed with three months. I was 26. I was single mother. My daughter was two of my son was four and I ended up living in a nursing home for a month. So I did a hospital and after

[00:24:56] the hospital, no treatments was working. So you know it's a assisted living facilities in our center. So I'll even try to quote, be right. So when I get to nursing home, doing that month

[00:25:12] process is when I began my spiritual journey because I began to question a lot of people say not to question the higher power but I believe that we are all co-creators. In the most

[00:25:24] question, what is my purpose? Why am I literally on my back? The only thing I could do is turn my head. I was paralyzed from my shoulder down. And so my spiritual journey began in that moment

[00:25:38] actually questioning what is my purpose, what is my meaning in this world. So when you look at a a growth mindset, anything dealing with the mindset again, you have to look at it from a spiritual

[00:25:52] perspective because it's impossible for any of us not to be traumatized and thumbs on a matter. It's like you have to ask questions, you have to seek a higher power or understand that there's

[00:26:05] a higher power or even that we all created for a specific reason. Like for a purpose, we all have a part to leave on earth, we have a mark to leave on each other. So any time we get

[00:26:17] wrapped up or get stuck again, just look at the spiritual end of it. Like what is my last and what am I learning from this? How am I growing mentally from this? You know, again, things get rough.

[00:26:28] We go through a lot of things. I'm not going to show you a coat that at all. The way out is to stay connected spiritually. And when I say spiritually, just spiritually, we were spiritual

[00:26:42] beings before we were incarnated on this earth. So you have to step outside of yourself. And you know, when mindset is so it's so broad. Right. I said it's broad but it includes spirituality

[00:26:58] because mindset where are you spiritually? Do you feel like you have a purpose? Do you know what your purpose is? Like what issues and what steps are you taking or you look looking

[00:27:08] into for guidance? Like it all involves with spirituality. That's true and you know, one of the I guess goes back to everything. The first, my cousin and I we had started making some music

[00:27:24] when we first got together back in 95 and a very first song was called mindset that was a name and it was generally about, you know, the mindset of people, you know, and it was

[00:27:39] good gear towards the interest at that time. You know, people were talking about poppin bottles and the gangster lifestyle and it's like your mindset, these change because you're going to

[00:27:49] grow up at some point in time and become a man and you can't do these childish things as a man. So change your mindset and one of the songs I recently did was called mindset 22. It's like steel working on that mindset. And that's the thing, like, you know,

[00:28:09] one of the verses I have in one of my songs is like, you know, 37, where pants and I still see your drones. Like why? Why? You know, like, yeah, at 28 is one thing but 37 and I'm still

[00:28:24] seeing your drones. Why why don't you take me through that brother change your mindset, you know? That's how I feel when when I see people like you rob in a convenience store and you're

[00:28:37] your fifth choice. Like you you hadn't had the opportunity to even up your criminal like something that's changed. Do better as a criminal. Right. Like you have no aspirations as a law about incitices, but now you have no answers. And the personal life.

[00:28:57] The rob is based on something. I'm saying they think they feel like they stuck. They feel like they know it's like bigger. They go watch new things. They don't watch the Ian, but go watch how mean oh shows you how to

[00:29:14] don't watch the Ian, but you know like that mentality though to think that someone I'll be 50 in June to think that someone in my age, their idea of making it or survival is to rob

[00:29:33] a local convenience. Like what is going on in your day-to-day life that this is the only answer. Nothing's going on in a day-to-day life. Absolutely. Right. And that's the problem. That's the problem. And that's how like on a non-criminal level, but

[00:29:56] that's how I think for me there was a switch a few years back in this like I don't want to just exist anymore. I want to live. I want this to take part in this. And the more we

[00:30:11] explore with the podcast and coaching and things like that, and we're meeting these people, the bigger the world becomes. And there's more out there than just what's right here. So

[00:30:28] and I want to experience those things. I want to be a part of those things. So I can't imagine getting up and thinking, you know what? Today I'm going to go up there and rob the gas plug.

[00:30:44] Like I said, if you money, I can't even think like you're free to them on the line, your life on the line. That'll get, that'll get you through for two days. It doesn't matter

[00:30:55] to a person who is in survival mode. Right. There must, it's in survival. They can't see anything pass that. And I guess that that part is the part that concerns me also is to have like,

[00:31:10] like I said, I wasn't in survival mode. I was existing because survival mode means that, you know, needs are not being met and I'm having to find. But I just, I'm thankful not to be in a situation

[00:31:23] to wear that, that's where I am. And that desperation sets in. Because because I like my freedom and I want to live so. I don't need to, I don't watch enough episodes or just a new

[00:31:41] black to know that even for me, I don't need to be in the end. Like Chris Ross said to Tau said to me, he taught me to do the police justice on the, he's built YouTube well back

[00:31:55] at Jogatama. He liked booty, you know, man's but I'm like, I'm a station. Honestly. So I did want to, you know, we talked about writing it, but I'm so big on

[00:32:11] acronyms. So almost everything I have acronym for so my set, I actually have acronym for that as well. Okay. Is the or mental, it's night, new direction, stimulated elevated truth. Oh, wow. Okay. Emulated elevated truth. All right.

[00:32:37] So explain that to us. I mean, obviously it's, but explain that to us as a whole concept or idea. So again, we can, you know, piggyback off the spiritual. So the spiritualness involves, you know, life visions, what do we see ourselves? What are mental attitudes about ourselves? Like

[00:33:01] what is our future? What is our purpose? I keep piggyback and going back to purpose because that is the mean and of life, like what is our purpose? So when you get stuck in a mindset at some point,

[00:33:12] you have to have another direction. If you want to go to a growth mindset, you have to know what direction you're going in and part of that is knowing that you have truth. Like what is your

[00:33:23] truth? And like you were saying, you're discovering your truth instead of awareness that may not be what you want it or what you expect, but you're true. So all that combines develops our mindset.

[00:33:35] Right. Emulated elevated truth. We have to elevate. We have to be growing. We have to be positioned ourselves to get to high levels in order to actually have a growth mindset or

[00:33:47] open mindset. But yes, so I just, I don't know again, I'm blessed to have a gift of words, a gift of messages and that one day it just hit me. And like my said, that is my acronym for my

[00:34:00] mindset. So you have to know what direction and you have to create new directions. And the end of it, all you have to be able to stand in your truth. So you a little girl in school where you

[00:34:10] are nerd like me. Actually, I was and I was a very shy nerd. Like I was, I knew the answers, but I did not want the teacher to call them maybe because I was tear at you speak in front of people.

[00:34:23] Really. So and when you, because you keep you go back to words and you're talking about the acronyms and things and that's how I was. I was such a big, oh, I was such a big nerd.

[00:34:36] I didn't mind the teacher calling on me though. Because I was that kid. I was that kid that you wanted to like but you really couldn't. Wow. And why do you always got a race or hey,

[00:34:51] I was that kid. Well, no. Yes, that was me. I was always the first one to finish and I would turn my paper in and then turn back to walk and look and then see this. I was still, I was still

[00:35:11] saying why I didn't want to teach the column in. They got so point because we're all adults. It became accountable for me even knowing the answers. You know, then at that point,

[00:35:20] I would lie. It's like, I didn't know the answers because of that. It created a lot of, you know, in business to like why does she always don't answer? But yeah, that's only definitely an

[00:35:31] urge. That's what I think I have a little bit of sociopath there because they didn't bother me because I did, I mean, like I said, you know, and the funny thing is as a teacher, especially when

[00:35:46] I taught elementary, that kid that was my reflection. I couldn't stand on. Oh, I can stand again that I was hit. Why don't you keep answer? We know you know it's crazy. You're hanging.

[00:36:00] You know, so as a teacher, I would not like to me but I was that kid. I was that kid and I didn't have, I didn't have the capacity to care what the other kid stopped. So they didn't like it. But

[00:36:19] I didn't care. I didn't. When I realized they were cheating off my paper, I would write the wrong answer on purpose and let them turn their paper in. I got smart by middle school. I would charge

[00:36:33] people to copy off my paper. I would be in trouble. I would have been trying to do best because you were doing this. I mean, I was doing this. I didn't think it was you that. I didn't think it was

[00:36:50] I would have told you because I'm smart. Yeah, I was and I recognized the students that were like me, especially elementary school now high school age, you know, I can get with them and let them know game recognized games. Or little ones, you know, like, oh,

[00:37:15] where are you coming over here again? That is not a self realization. I don't know what that is. So, Lang, y'all, y'all some up in the Negroes, nor every day. No, we're just smart.

[00:37:31] Don't hate. I see that was me. That was me. That still is me. I'm just smart and I'll let people know where I work now in my department. I am the only person of color. Okay. And so

[00:37:50] because of the demographics of the school, because of the political climate, because of all of these things, I do feel that now. I kind of keep to myself and I don't, I'm not as quick to let it be

[00:38:06] known what I know or what I'm capable of because of the ramifications of those things, which is another reason that I would be so glad when we can make the move towards

[00:38:22] having control of our time being self-employed so that I can fully, you know, express how I feel because now I keep things under wraps because I like to keep my job and timing.

[00:38:37] To keep the trip all about the day is not, now she's a teacher, right? So you know, we know teachers do regular lives. She's like everybody else. Have her school shirt on with, you know, the logo on it, right? Something like you want to go to

[00:38:55] start by the list of them for me getting part of the list and get your way. She went and go to the list of them. I would not. Because she had a shirt on it. Why did I just tell you?

[00:39:04] You teach the whole look down. They know, they're people on the who you are. What did I just should go and like, so I take my shirt off and I go that and we just saw it the other day.

[00:39:17] And this was the staff not just faculty but the entire staff 70% white, 19% black, 19% exactly. There are only a handful of chips in that cookie. I love the kids. Look at go to the liquor store. I love the kids where I teach and I feel like,

[00:39:39] no, I don't feel like I know this is my last step in the classroom. And I will get to leave the classroom on a high note. I want to leave on my own terms. I work in a district where

[00:39:54] as a person of color and the funny part about it is I work in a district. I went the school then but as a person of color, you have to watch yourself. You definitely are in America's school. Absolutely. And they're waiting for an opportunity. Absolutely.

[00:40:16] The political climate now I can tell you it's a Republican county. Great. So even with we just adopted new textbooks and I'm not a fan of them and most of the

[00:40:32] department is not. And so what they're doing is they're doing the bare minimum so that they can get through and do the things they want to do. For me, I stick to that textbook because any piece of

[00:40:43] text that I introduced, if it has something in it that could be deemed divisive, I don't want the parent to be able to say well this teacher, the only black teacher.

[00:40:57] And this is indoctrination. Man, I'm just here so I don't get fun. That's what you see. You know that's me again. I'm not trying to, and if I wanted to indoctrinate then they would turn their

[00:41:10] working in all time. They would come to class all time prepared. If I'm going indoctrinate something those are the things I'm going to indoctrinate. So I'm just mindful of that and he knows this.

[00:41:25] So I don't know why he's acting like his new. Now when I was not in that district and I was in other districts, I wasn't as mindful. But even still as a teacher we have separate,

[00:41:39] we have different expectations. No other job, even with doctors, if you walk into a restaurant, you see a doctor taking a glass of drink glass of wine. You know, I don't think anything of it.

[00:41:51] But if you walk in there and you see your child's teacher drinking the wine, and then you see, I hope she doesn't do that during the day. You know, those are the things they do at school hours. That's what we need it.

[00:42:08] That's what we need it though. So he knows this and like I said, I'm going to leave on a positive note from a good and bad deal. Right. There was one who was getting ready to go with a program who didn't test purpose of buying

[00:42:26] some land. You know, I'm just going to get some land. She's like, hold on, let me take my shirt off. I see, and I go bad. I used to have the educator tag license plate. And so I was like,

[00:42:44] if I'm driving my car somewhere, I'm mindful of where I'm parking what I had to say. I had a bright red Mustang with an educator tag on the back. Uh-huh. It don't see too many of those around. So the last thing I want is for some kids,

[00:42:58] saying, Ms. Mackie, I saw you. And you know they will. They will. They definitely will. And it's not their party to look at it. Right. I have one. I don't know where, I don't know if

[00:43:12] his mom teaches or what, but I go to Dunkin' Donas. Oh, Fridays and Mondies. Ped it down on Fridays and Mondies. And he'll come in and say, I saw you this morning. I saw you. I saw you dunking.

[00:43:30] All right. So I, you know, things like that, I still haven't recognized the car that I see there. You know, I'm saying so things like that to be called off guard. He knows. And once now, once I'm out of

[00:43:43] the classroom and I can be free with everything, he also realizes he's going to be thinking, how do I reign that back in? So he wants you to go down. Because I'm feisty. So, so you better enjoy this. Oh. Yeah.

[00:44:04] Those can send us some. All right. So, look at you. You got us all off task. That was me really. The whole responsibility. That's the great way to hold yourself accountable. I know, I don't know. So for our listeners, if our listeners are

[00:44:30] feeling stuck, they're going through some things. If they are at a time of transition, a time of, you know, confusion trying to figure things out, what let's see, three things can you say to them to help them today to start to get out of that unstuck feeling?

[00:44:50] First question. I'll ask them. What do you grateful for in this moment? That is one of the main key components that we forget. We get wrapped up in our bubbles. And we lose sight of everything, every reason to have gratitude. I'll ask them to see

[00:45:10] what they're grateful for in this moment. Number two, I was held them to take at least five minutes to themselves to sit in silence. That is key for your mindset. It's sitting in silence.

[00:45:27] It allows you to only your own space. It allows you to listen to yourself without outside distractions. At least five minutes, I actually recommend every morning for you to sit at least five minutes to yourself in silence. Shift your entire day. And then number three, again, do something

[00:45:46] to make sure you have it. What brings you joy? Like don't worry about if it's something that someone else may think is weird or strange. You like to fit and feed the duck, or

[00:45:57] you just want to stare at the sky. Whatever brings you joy, whatever you find happiness in, do that because it's not about everybody else. We are sending away all connected. We all

[00:46:09] in this thing together as we are. But as well as starts here, we know that it's still in word than hour. So do what makes you feel good. Absolutely right. Now I do a lot of times

[00:46:24] when I'm on my way to work in the morning, because I get up so early and you know a lot of times I'll just sit in the bathroom for about five to six minutes. Just sit there, stay at the curtain,

[00:46:38] you know. Sometimes I might meditate, you know, just telling music off on the way to work and just doesn't think that's the name of it. It is, it is hell. Hello, I'm not touching it. Right. I apologize. Parks. Where are the words? Right. You know, I know.

[00:47:07] Right. Bring it to reality. You know, I'm trying to help people understand that you can do things in certain moments. That is, you are with you on that. That is correct. You had no excuse, but he's saying no excuses. All right. That's people that. And I think really

[00:47:26] because I used to think that when they called the meditation I had to just be sitting in. You know, just had to write to sit in the inside. I can't do it in style nowadays.

[00:47:39] Sit in this style and all of that. And I had to realize that now, this turn of music off of just you know, you're driving and you just, you know, you meditate.

[00:47:50] So yeah. It's a matter of focus. So a lot of people think meditation is just not thinking about anything like that's impossible for us, not to think about it. That's impossible. So when we meditate,

[00:48:03] it just means to have focused on something and staring out the window. You can be meditating just being a silence. You can be meditating while you're painting. It's just your focus, where you're, where your focus is going to. That's meditation. There was one trick that I heard

[00:48:23] that helped me because I have severe adult ADHD. Like I mean it's bad. And so when I would try and just sit and it was probably some of the same things. You just miss, miss understanding what

[00:48:43] it meant to meditate. But I would try and just sit and focus and I couldn't do it. And so I was watching a video on YouTube and they were talking about finding something to focus on.

[00:48:57] So I watched the ceiling pan and watching the ceiling pan rotate, it was something for me to focus on. But I think that the movement of the fan also helped me focus on it because

[00:49:11] it took a lot to rain it in focusing on that kind of helped me learn how to zone out a little bit so that I could quiet my mind. So any of those tips and tricks

[00:49:27] to help calm them in, and I realized in doing that how exhausting it is for your mind to constantly go like that and writing in general makes you know I'm in that too. To that when I'm out there

[00:49:43] because I work on cars on the side too. I love it so much so sometimes I just stand back and stare at the motor. Okay well why did they put this here and why did they put this here and another

[00:49:54] main fact you made done some totally different and I just gaze at it and that's meditation. Absolutely. Why it takes him so long sometimes. Yeah, and it is. I've done meditation's washing dishes. Okay. Like I'm why don't use this wash. I will I hand wash

[00:50:17] still and it puts you in the zone. It puts you in the zone a lot of times because we are what 85% water it sparks my creativity to my hands or underwater. So I can be

[00:50:32] a creative idea is so you have meditation in this so broad even got it. I do that in meditation so you write my meditation for people to do guided meditation so it's different

[00:50:43] forms of and think like you're always saying people get called up and don't understand. I get stuck on that one and I'm like, I gotta tell you for you my mind. You got to be, you know,

[00:50:52] right. Yeah. The meditation is very broad. Right. I can do the dishes, I see I meditate as I went to spot off and I keep that hot water in our rest that's

[00:51:03] spot off and then do it and then this one. Yeah. Yeah. That's turned to put all over the body for three things and then start to let that water in the afternoon. Yeah. That's good meditation

[00:51:20] then. See, he let then you know now that we're lazy. I just, I'm going to vacuum a little while ago you can meditate with the bed. I don't vacuum. I don't like the vacuum. That's but

[00:51:39] I realized why there was some childhood trauma time in it. So once I realized why did I make sense to me? Yeah, thank you. The extension cord on the vacuum too. Child trauma alert. Look. No, I got a trauma.

[00:52:00] One time, no one time. Yeah, no, no. But that's a whole nothing. Every night, a little every night, you know, unwrap the cord and be like, hey, I got a wooden one this

[00:52:09] went down. I think it is. So all right, Ms. Janssey, how can people if people would like what they heard so far want to contact you, want to reach out to you for their specific needs? How

[00:52:27] can they get in touch with you? Yes, I actually primarily work off of social media so they can definitely find it on Facebook as Jaddy got his one words together. They're mine that

[00:52:40] and I'm also on Instagram and TikTok under my set coach, Jazzy. And if you old school, which I don't mind at all, you can send me an email at my touch right at gmail.com.

[00:52:55] And I'll be here to put a new work because I'm all about jumping in. I'm a straight to the point type of coach. So if you're ready, then I'm ready for you.

[00:53:05] Okay, well, we thank you so much for joining us on this wonderful Sunday. You said it was what? 22 where you are now? It's coach. All right, we're going to talk about this. Get

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