Chatting with Our (Grown) Babies 💙💚

[00:00:23] In the New Year 2025 we decided to sit down with our children again. Oops, speak of the devil. The dog is coming to the party. What you going? She came up just in time. Checking on everybody? Huh? Make sure we straight. Make sure we record right. Oh, we can't see the kids. We can't see the kids.

[00:00:46] Watch the cord. Anyway. Yeah. So we decided to bring the adult children in. I don't even want to call y'all kids. They're our kids. The adults in there.

[00:01:16] It's the baby. Look at them. Have a little fun. Have a little discussion time. You know, talk about some things. So, we're ghosts. Y'all gonna introduce yourselves? Real quick. My name is Tyson. I would just like to plug my newly fresh podcast, Ty Squared, featuring my friend who is also named Ty. So you know what I'm saying? Spotify, YouTube. Check it out.

[00:01:44] And you could just type Ty and then we really just put the square sign. But I also put a reference to you for the people in the back. Square. So y'all know. So you know if you just type in that, you'll find it very quickly. Just saying. You can hear y'all's resemblance. Anyways, hey y'all. I'm Regan. You can plug me in at I'm single at so give me up. Up, now see. No, ma'am.

[00:02:14] No. Well, I don't really have much to plug in. I'm working on myself right now. I'm working on my music. We'll get there soon. Yep. We're waiting. But it's okay. It's a work in progress. Absolutely. All right. My music out there, run them strings up please. Please and thank you. Yeah. T-Y-S-O-N-N-T-K-I-U. Get us out the hood. Whatever that is first. First of all. Just kidding.

[00:02:42] I just want to say disclaimer, we're not in the hood. Right. Right. When I say get us out the hood, it's a... As hard as your mother and father would. It's a term. You have never cared anything that was pure. Never smelled the hood. Right? Never smelled hood. Never been a hood. Never tasted the hood. I don't even know what hood is. You know what? Wait, wait, wait. T-M-I. Go back, go back. No. It's a term. We'll put that out. Why did you say that? We'll put that out. No. What? Right.

[00:03:13] That's about as hood as it got. Right. Y'all, it's a term. Enology. She said it like that earlier. What? What kind of saying it? It's one word, baby. Well... Emphasis. Emphasis. I got you. Okay. Emphasis. Emphasis. Emphasis. Emphasis. It's okay. Ride out with it. See, we have been blessed with brilliant, talented babies. Emphasis. And sometimes...

[00:03:44] Sometimes that baby's brain gets to going too fast. Mm-hmm. And it goes faster than her mouth. And it's okay. That is okay. Right. It is okay. All right. Well, topic one. Topic one. Topic one. So we wanted to discuss the video of Vice President Kamala and... I can't remember the name. We don't even... His name isn't important anyway. Right. Right. Because she wasn't important enough to shake his hand.

[00:04:11] And Senator Woods and the best, uh, Connell and Woodshaker. Right. Yeah. And I want to say this, even... It's not even just the fact that... Because you'll have people who will say, oh, you people are being sensitive and... And he had a cane. I think he had a cane in the video. But it's also the energy of the video that you can tell, like... Like, we know what it is. When you're... When you're black and you've been black all your life, you just know when... Wait a minute.

[00:04:40] Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Okay, we'll make you finish that. I mean, there's plenty of people jumping in and out of blackness. So yeah, when you've been black all your life... Well, well, let's finish this, but I want to revisit that. Okay. So when you've been black all your life, you just kind of get... You know what it is. It's just like, you know, how we'll have that thought of, you know, did I not get that job because of, you know? Did so-and-so handle me in this way because of, not so much, because of what was actually going on in this situation.

[00:05:09] You know, was I really being dramatic in this situation or were people gassing it up because I'm black, you know? And those are real life, you know, self-conversations and conversations, kitchen table talks that we have every day. Right. So... And that's something that you can't understand unless you've been... Unless you live it. Right. And, um, so that's that part. But I want to go back to...

[00:05:39] Mm-hmm. ...then black all your life. Like, what's the alternative? Yeah. Um... Yeah. Michael Jackson. You know what? Well, we not fixing it. Ah! Right? I said what I said. We not fixing it. And I'm still finna turn on... Disrespect the King of Pop. I'm still finna turn on Thriller after this. Right. I don't care. But we not gonna do this with the King of Pop. She asked and I answered. Michael Jackson. So... Or that white... The white lady that got the... Oh my God, what was her name? And she got the like...

[00:06:08] And got the dark, dark skin. She was born. I remember that story. That was so weird. Yeah, she was somewhere. Oh my God. That gonna talk about my play cousin. I've seen it. It's her turn. It's her turn. She's a hot thing. Yeah. Y'all's opinions. Any race. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She also likes Rachel Dolezal out. Rachel Dolezal. What are your thoughts on Rachel? That's my play cousin. See? You weren't talking about Rachel. I know. He was talking about... He was talking about the woman that's overseas or something.

[00:06:38] And I mentioned my play cousin. Oh, okay. Got you. Anywho... The thing is like... Okay. You are... You are a husband of a person who you're half wrong. Right. And you are getting sworn in. You're sworn in, swearing in, and said, you may have your personal feelings about, you know, the vice president, whatever, but to not shake the person's hand, that's just disrespect. Right. I don't care.

[00:07:07] You ain't holding no cane. You ain't even see the cane until... If you could've shook her hair, you probably never seen the cane. You know what I'm saying? And you could've switched the cane to your other hand. You could've been holding hands up in the Searsfield. It was just blatantly disfaceted. It was. There was... No other way to look at it. And the flip side of that... I'm sorry, is he a senator himself? No. The pay... Not necessarily. Right, they get the perks though. Oh, uh-huh. They get all of the perks that they don't want... So all you need to do is sit there and smile. I don't know.

[00:07:36] Because if the person at the nine-to-five that's underpaid has to do it, then so can you. No, they're probably... They use his money to... Damn slave money. They use his money to... God damn. Probably the rally. Damn.

[00:08:07] Um... Yeah. So what do you think about her response or lack of response? I think she's just kind of used to it. Um... I think she... And if I'm not mistaken, there hasn't been anything said. Yeah, I don't think she's said anything. I think Kamala's just ready to go on about her life and her day. That's one thing that... Especially after, you know, the...

[00:08:34] Like, I voted for her and I knew it was... I knew what the outcome was more likely gonna be because if Hillary as a white woman couldn't get in. Right. I didn't really have much hope for Kamala, so... It was... But I did vote for her. It was the same... And I do feel like she probably thought she had a piece of a chance as well and I think she just... It was the same feeling that I had during the last election. But anywho, it is what it is and... Yeah.

[00:09:04] In a few short days, power will switch over and change it. The CEO got killed the next day. It was a lady that was on the phone with her insurance company. She got pissed off and she said something that was like in his manifesto. Well, they locked her ass up. Oh, damn. Yeah. They're not making a... They're trying to charge up the television. I'm just saying... And this is the thing too. Anyway.

[00:09:28] With the stuff that he has said coming into office, if he follows through with it, police officers will be... will have immunity in the air they want to. More than they do now. More than they do now. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:09:51] So, we're gonna move on from that topic because... I mean, it is what it is. It was... It was rude. It was rude. And you know, we are... We're southerners and we tend to be... Yeah. You know, we're big on southern hospitality and that was rude. Yeah. So, we're just gonna move on past that and go to the next topic. It's hard to have no manners when you have no lips. Next topic.

[00:10:22] Did he make them look so? Next topic. See, you and Ty are gonna have to tackle that in that way. Uh-huh. Yeah. We'll have to come and be guests on yours for y'all to make it. Okay. So, um... What is this? Kai Sinat? Mm-hmm. His name? He's a YouTube streamer. Yeah. Twitch. Twitch streamer. What does he do? Does he gang? What does he do?

[00:10:51] Um, I don't know. I don't really watch him. No, it seems like he does any and everything. Okay. Or maybe a little bit of everything. I know he has celebrity guests because I know Glorilla was on there. Um, Nikki. Yeah, I remember recently like he had Lil TJ on there. Uh-huh. And Lil TJ was on there. He was smoking. Oh, yeah. Oh, no. Never mind. This is the wrong one. Wrong one. Wrong one. I remember seeing about that though. Wrong one. Yeah. I remember when Nikki was on there. She asked him. What? Can I sit next? Are you slow? Oh my God.

[00:11:21] Oh really? Yeah. Anyway, he was on the club Shay Shay Shay, Shannon Sharps, a podcast. Mm-hmm. And uh, he was talking about his relationship with the band. So, do y'all know how old he is? He's at my age. Around our age. Okay. Okay. What? My age. Okay. Thank you. Like I said, hours. It was 30 babes. And if you want to be honest, he looked about the same as my age. It was his 30 babes. No, he kind of looks like... He don't look 23.

[00:11:51] Okay. Okay. So, he's in his early to mid 20s. Mm-hmm. Mid 20s. Okay. Mid 20s. And... He was talking about the relationship that he had with his dad. He was... Yeah. When I looked... When I watched the video, it seemed to me like, you know, he was, uh, like, really seeking his father's approval.

[00:12:17] And if he mentioned something to the point of, you know, he was gonna take his earnings and make sure that his dad gives... His kids. Half of his sister's a life that he wasn't able to give him. Yeah. When he was a child, that kind of struck me. I was like, why would he never do that? Right. So he, from what, from what I gathered, his dad was not involved in his life. Mm-hmm.

[00:12:45] And then, now he is an adult. He has income and notoriety and things. So, he's involved now and he's talking about helping with his, um, half siblings. Yeah. Which... What are y'all's thoughts on that? Is that like seen as a positive thing or...? I think society would see that as a positive.

[00:13:14] For me, I just look at things differently. I don't, um... If you're not there, I don't, I don't know. I just... And I wasn't there for his upbringing. But if you were not present, like, I'd just be the kind of person... There probably wouldn't even be any communication for that to even happen in the first place. Mm-hmm. And then, I don't know, like, I mean, it's...

[00:13:43] I'm not gonna say it's not admirable to look out for your half siblings. But, um... I don't know, for me, it's just amazing how... When I see these conversations sometimes, the parent that stays, which is not always the mother, but a lot of times it is the mother. Mm-hmm. She deals with a lot of brunt, whether it's from the child or the society that's going to chastise her and say you should have chose better and whatever else.

[00:14:13] But the deadbeat dad is literally gonna have his kids provided for... And then we don't even know, I don't know if he spoke to, like, what the relationship was there, like, did his dad step out on his mom? You know, I know some people may say if they weren't married, it doesn't count, but I feel like once you have a child, that's a little... Well, even if you and the... Even if the parents aren't together... Like, if there was an overlap, then I would even be questioning it more, like, how do you... Right. In my...

[00:14:41] Like, all bets are off when a child is involved. Oh, yeah. And when you procreate, then it's your responsibility to be involved with that child. Yeah. But I agree that, you know, the mom... And not only from society, but from a standpoint of parenting, she's been there, she's put forth effort. And he, I mean, he may be supportive of her as well. Yeah. But, I don't know, I...

[00:15:11] It would feel like a slap in the face. Yeah. I mean, I... And I get the relationship, like, he's longed for that relationship all of his life. So, here he is, he's a young man at 20, whatever he is, 22, 23. And maybe as a kid, but he's not far from being a kid. You know? And now my dad's paying attention to me. He... You know what I'm saying? Did she say he has a kid? No. No. Okay. Okay.

[00:15:40] And, you know, now my dad's paying attention to me. So, that's when you long for, you know, to succeed to live, you know, a young kid. And it's like, okay, now I have this, so now I've got to exert myself into it. And I think, I feel like... Hold on to it. ...over-exerting myself. Yeah, yeah. Like, no, you're not responsible. Nah, you want to do for your siblings, that's fine. Yeah, like a Christmas or something. I wouldn't be mad at a Christmas gift. Don't try to create a life that he could provide for you. Yeah.

[00:16:10] Cause it's not fair. Cause what if you didn't have a family that came into your life and then all of a sudden now... But would he have? Right. Would he have the man, so let me come in. Right. Because now he can provide. It's almost like the father's an infant and he's the parent essentially of some kids that ain't even, I mean they're his siblings, but you know, some people feel like half siblings, they don't look at them in the same way as their sibling siblings. But it's almost like he's putting himself and I don't know if it's that, but you grew up with him. I grew up with him.

[00:16:38] Yeah, but he didn't, it didn't sound like he grew up with him. He didn't grow up with him. He didn't grow up with him. No, he didn't. That's like meeting another joke on the street right now. Yeah. If I met a brother right now, that'd be like meeting another person on the street. Yeah. I, okay, but for him, okay, let's go back to him viewing this from the lens of his childhood, trying to give what he didn't have. That's sad in and of itself because y'all still don't have that father. Yeah.

[00:17:06] Like he, he's getting, he's getting off on being the father, being the provider. Right. And even if he's providing for or helping or giving these things to his half sibling, it doesn't have the same value as if your father was. And the thing about it is to be a parent, it's not about the finances, the material stuff.

[00:17:36] Obviously, he wasn't there. Yeah. Right. And that to me is, is more important than the materialistic part. Yeah. I think maybe cause, oh yeah. Go ahead. Um, maybe cause he wasn't present in his life, he thinks by doing that, you know, he'll stay present. Right. Yeah. Right.

[00:18:01] Or maybe he's trying to, I don't know, like buy favor with the, I don't know. Yeah. I, um, the way he seems on his, like, I haven't watched his like twitches, but like the way people like make him out to be, he seems like a very humble, like sweet guy. So I feel like he could just be doing it out of the kindness of his heart. Maybe. Um, I feel different. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:18:29] I feel different from my out perspective. But what I will say is, one, I haven't seen the best just for me and you know, our algorithms probably are different. I haven't seen the best of news from him. So it's never really been a reason for me to tune into him. But one thing I will say is, this situation, they kind of humanize him in a way. Mm-hmm. Because before I kind of just looked at him as like a, like an internet troll that just, you know. And there's nothing, I mean there's nothing wrong with that.

[00:18:59] I mean. That's, that's how we tend to look at most people. Mm-hmm. Until we learn their back story. Mm-hmm. So it's not humanized. And I will say, some of his genre of that create, type of creator, it can come off attention seeking. Mm-hmm. So maybe there's an explanation there. Well, right. Father not being there. Right.

[00:19:29] And, and who knows what the experiences were or what he was told about why his dad wasn't there and all this stuff. So there's a lot that comes into play. But. Do y'all think parents should be honest about the dynamics if they're not the best, like in between the parents? No, I think that. I do feel like appropriate, age appropriate conversations. Yeah.

[00:19:53] But I also feel like, I, like I wouldn't, if I was in, let's say, you know, I don't know what their history was, but let's say if there was some abuse there with the mom and the dad, I wouldn't look at her wrong if by the time they're maybe 14, 15, you know, she just lays it out. Hey, this is what happened. Oh, right. And from there, you know, if they still decide to deal with it, I mean, that's, you know, that's on them. Right. Yeah. It definitely has to be age appropriate. Cause they're going to find out.

[00:20:19] But now what I have seen in the past is, and this is just people that I know, I have seen like the mom or whatever, dad, not the dad, to the point where, you know, it's just like you're talking negative by and every time. And then now you're, you're cringing the pain. Yeah. Right. Versus you just, you know, laying back and telling the truth. Uh huh. Like the truth would be like, well, your daddy didn't, he wasn't able to make it to come get you today.

[00:20:49] Or, and not, you know, well, you know, he always, uh, he always don't come get you. Your dad ain't shit or whatever. You know what I'm saying? And that's, that's the big difference. You didn't have hurt. You know? That's, you know. I think for me it's, it's kind of that murky line because like, I feel like whether you say it or not, like, if it's, if it gets to that point to where the kid can feel that they're kind of naturally gonna. Oh yeah.

[00:21:13] And that's what, that's what you should, that's the best thing is to be honest. Yeah. Like your dad said, instead of saying, you know, giving a reason why you think he didn't come, just say, well, your dad didn't, didn't come. Um, but as the child gets older to be more upfront and especially if questions come up. Yeah.

[00:21:38] Um, but to, to not plant those seeds because the actions of the other parents. Right. The absent parents. Those actions are gonna speak very loud at some point. Yeah. And, and, and you know, kids are very intelligent. So they know. Mm-hmm. You know, a lot of times they may be in denial about it. Oh yeah. But they know, you know, whether they feel the love from that parent or their life. So they know, they understand it. So. Yeah.

[00:22:08] I just, um, I wish him well. I hope it works out for him and, and his siblings. He talked about his brother being, half brother being excited about finding out who he was. Who his brother, yeah. Uh-huh. So hopefully it'll work out for them. Yeah. That was cute. Yeah. We had a, there was a video, I think, Monday long. She was on, uh, 85 South, I think. She was talking about a session with, uh, J. Cole. Mm-hmm.

[00:22:36] And, um, she was, you know, in the studio and she was speaking negative. And she said, J. Cole came and sat down for a second. And then you listened for a little while and then you got out of there. Mm-hmm. And she was just talking about, you know, she understood it because she was just displaying negative energy. And she's like a, uh, a positive energy type person. And, basically, she was saying that she understood it.

[00:23:05] And people, in some ways, sometimes when people might take that offense to say, you know, oh, they think they just do it. But some people just, you know, don't want to be around negative energy. So, I thought that was pretty interesting for her to be able to admit that first. You know, she said, I would be very negative at that. And I, I like the fact that because it's so much, there's so much, um, negative stuff that's put out there.

[00:23:35] Mm-hmm. And people latch on to it. And the fact that she, she told that story and she said she was being negative. And she was, she was basically giving him props for coming in, realizing I don't want to be in this, and then walking out. Yeah. He didn't say anything. He just walked out. And she, she was basically like giving him props for doing that. And I, you know, that's, I appreciate that.

[00:24:03] You know, I'm big on negative energy being in my space, but I probably don't walk out quite as eloquently. I just probably, you probably see it on my face when I walk out, but it's okay. Mm-hmm. To go from the other side, just from his perspective, you know, I mean, we can't really know what was going on in his head, but we can't infer from what she said. But I do think it's nice that he didn't try to like dismiss her or anything. Right.

[00:24:29] He let her, you know, get off her chest for as much as he could there. And then from there, he just walked out. Right. I think as I walk into further, further into adulthood, I'm just one of those, I'm getting, I'm at the point where I just kind of allow people to, wherever you're at when I meet you, that's where you're at. And you know, from there, if this is somebody, even if I like them, if this is somebody who for whatever reason, there's something that I can't look past for us to have a relationship

[00:24:55] of any kind, friendship, whatever, I just, you know, enjoy them for the capacity that I can and just keep moving. Right, right, right. Or, you know, chew the meat, spit the bones, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. My God. What? You sound like somebody's granddaddy. Yeah. I'm why he's like so too easy. You absolutely are. Yeah. That means you take them. You're welcome. That means you take what you need and leave what you don't.

[00:25:24] Throw the bathwater out, not the baby, is that what it is? No. Don't throw the baby out with the- You just told me you're welcome. But you struggling. It's okay, I got you. Yeah, cause I don't use those grandfatherly phrases like that. I, you don't grandmother? No. Um, okay. I might tell you don't put the cart before the horses and shit like that. No. That don't tell the stairs. No, you gon' tell- You gon' tell-

[00:25:50] You gon' go straight and at some point, you gon' have to turn. You gon' have to turn. You gon' have to turn. You gon' hit the brick wall. Oh, okay, alright. You turn out his driveway, you gon' go straight. You keep going. There's trees over there, you gon' eat. Um, or, you can't keep- But what if it's just a straight road? You can't keep kicking the can down the road. That's right. At some point, you gotta pick it up. That's right. Or at some point, your foot gon' hurt. There you go. See?

[00:26:20] See? You sounded like your daddy. Congratulations. Yeah. Look at that. I, um, and I did like the fact that he didn't, he didn't chastise, criticize, whatever. He understood his limitations and he walked out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I said, my face- Now we might have missed out on a good record, J. Cole, so just give another chance in the future, cause I think both of y'all would, I think that'd be a good record. But, you know. But, I, I concur. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:26:50] I like how she came out and kept it real about how like, she, like for instance, Kesha couldn't cover like a, of one of the vocals on Timber. So she's in the background on it. And she was saying how like her artist, her label wants to give her sound to a more palatable audience slash artist. So, and she was saying how she wasn't going for that. So. That sounds like it's going backwards.

[00:27:18] It sounds like your favorite, um, the five heartbeats with the, the album cover not reflecting the actual group. Yeah, yeah. Um, real talk is just a feeling I've been kind of sitting on, but it feels like a lot of stuff is going backwards. It feels like stuff is getting more and less and less black. It feels like, like even, you know, I know y'all are the biggest fans of reality TV, but

[00:27:45] like when I was talking to, we were playing a game the other day and I was talking to Tony and I was thinking about it and I was like, when I watched the black housewives, the trips that they go on are not the same as the other housewives. Like I know one of the trips they were, they had floaties and they were in a boat and it's like, this is the house. Y'all was supposed to be the upper echelon. This is what you watch off for money. You know, we don't want y'all to be related. We trying to escape from that. So, um, and then when I think about the fact that the other housewives

[00:28:15] of the franchise, Atlanta has been going off for like two years. It's almost like it, it just a theory. I'm not, can't say for sure, but it kind of seems like Bravo just used us for the clicks and the views. And now it's like the black franchise, if it comes back, come back. If it don't know, you know, or they might just be trying to slowly itch it out anyway. Fox do the same thing. Cause they had Martin and Living Single and all those black shows. Yeah.

[00:28:41] Then once they got their popularity up and things, they started denouncing the black shows. Yeah. Switching them off. Yup. That's the way it's been. You know, they, they look at it as, and you know, I hate, you know, when people are talking about, they go to these Hollywood executives or whatever and try to get films and they, they'll say, you know, black people don't go to the movies like that.

[00:29:10] And like proven time and time again. So it's not that, you know, we don't participate in, uh, society. It's just that they don't want to. Yeah. Cause they know that, you think about it like, you know, somebody go with a great idea. And I got some great food. Then they put it out independently when they're source. But like, think about all the stuff that's just crap that's just out there that, you know,

[00:29:35] the white directors make, you know, this stupid one you see come out and they got these budgets. And they barely even make the budget. Yeah. But they'll give that director another couple of million dollars. Let's make another film. Yeah. Or it's not even as stupid. It's mediocre. It's not nothing to write home. Like people turn out for a black Panther of all races. So to say that we can't draw in the whole world, we draw, we don't, we don't, we don't G's.

[00:30:05] Let's just say that we don't G's. We've got like movies coming out now that people have had to work for 10, 15 years. Mm-hmm. You know, you find out and it's like, wow. And you know, because they couldn't get, it wasn't the right time or whatever. Mm-hmm. They weren't in that place in their career. We're talking about some A-best actors now. Yeah. It's like I finally got my movie to be green, let's be made. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It's like, that's crazy.

[00:30:34] Brandi's more of a singer, but she's just now getting her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on her birthday. I think it's next week. Maybe it'll be a good show. But yeah, it's so funny. We the first to be duplicated and replicated, but the last to be awarded or given credit. Yeah. He created a lot of great films. That's the one thing I give Tyler Perry. He do keep making a lot of trauma up, well, adult films.

[00:31:04] But, adult film type stuff. Not to say none of it is good. I did hear, I do want to watch, we should probably watch, and maybe we'll do a review episode if we do, the Triple Eight movie or whatever. Triple Eight, yeah. With Kerry Washington. He directed it. I've actually heard good stuff, but it's not acrimony. Okay. Okay, because I have been, that's not something. What was the, um. I give him that. He has his own studio, so he don't have to wait. He can make stuff whenever he wants. I'm just wanting to hire some more writers.

[00:31:33] What was the Netflix movie he did? It was like, the first, it, the Netflix movie that he did a few years back, and they said it was filmed like really quick and. A Fall From Grace. Yes. This is in Ranchin. Oh. It was better than Acrimony though. Yeah, it was. Oh my gosh. Acrimony was like. Woo. I, we got done watching Acrimony, and I had picked it out. Oh.

[00:32:02] I looked at him and I apologized, because I wasted two hours of our lives. That was funny. I was like, is that? Mullet? Mullet? The one where, um, she's cheating. Temptation? Maybe.

[00:32:31] Was that his sister? Yeah. I think that was that. I can't remember. I think it is. I think it is. I think it is. I don't know if that was his movie or not, but. I ain't watch that. But I know what you're talking about. Look. You a smart boy. You a smart boy. Cause, I was like, oh my God. The only one with Taurachi. Juicy Smoky. The only one I can think of with Taurachi that I watch, was I can do bad all by myself. Now I watch that any time of day.

[00:32:59] I mean, it's still got elements of the same stuff that I'm kind of tired of seeing in our cinema, but it's good. Like, it's probably. It was good then, but it was like, I think, you know, it's kind of like. That bath tub set. You're at the peak of doing those same type storylines. So you had to kind of try to do different and, you know, like, you had to miss after that. Yeah.

[00:33:24] Um, and I've never, I've never watched any of the TV series. I have to have. Yeah. Yeah. Besides Meet the Browns and House of Pains. I tried with House of Pains too. Oh my gosh. Um, the, um, the shows when they were younger. What's that? That's all you watch. Oh yeah. Meet the Browns. Yeah. Meet the Browns, House of Pains. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Good. That's all you watch.

[00:33:54] Meet the Browns, House of Pains. They brought House of Pains back. I ain't gonna lie to Tyler Perry. Why would you make Malika, baby daddy? I just ain't like this. It was on that screen. I didn't, the, it was, yeah, it was a lot going on when it came back. I didn't, I didn't watch it when it came back, but. Yeah. Alright. And it's weird cause I felt like he did that and try to appeal to us, but my generation kinda is tired of seeing stuff like that. So it was kinda like a, uh. You think, you don't think it was maybe just like a natural progression? I mean because. I mean it could have been. I mean that could have been the plan all along.

[00:34:23] I'm not gonna rule it out, but. You know they have the same characters you had to kinda kiss a little bit because they're not kids. I mean, I mean, come on now. We can't, we have to expect anything when the crackhead comes back. You know what I'm saying? Like, like there's nothing untouchable at that point. Right. And then what did she, didn't she come back and she was like. She's been clean for a very long period of time. You don't have to be a houseboat. You don't have to be a houseboat.

[00:34:52] I said, oh my god, this is so … She's been clean for a very long time. I mean, so didn't this. That's not reality making the crackhead of housewife. Oh my god. If you know what? There's a some idea of her, she actually featured on season 7 of the housewives. And not one of them was like, so did you really do crack to play a crackhead? Do you know what? I would have asked her. I don't lie. Well. See. I did watch, um, The Beauty and Black. I told you about that mom.

[00:35:22] and a lot of people like I went on reddit and people on there were saying how it was just very like dramatized because like yeah like okay so it was basically like I'll give y'all a short story it's about this like little stripper girl but she's also like what do you call it the pimpy of the pimp not the pimp but

[00:35:51] madam madam madam yeah and then but also the one who she was getting it down for was the husband of the company called Beauty and Black and she was like crazy as hell I just saw that you do um the preview for yeah trailer for it cuz they

[00:36:20] show her like no but it's it's really dramatized and that's like a lot of people are like oh this making black people look bad but it's like you gotta think about it it's TV it's like I think that's supposed to be real stuff like that it's like you want stuff like you know that's it was for us though it's for us yeah and when we like there's

[00:36:45] almost a comfort in watching those things like we didn't live like that but we we get the the jokes we get what's going on we get that stuff so some of it when it's for us like that I think that when we start saying it was too much it was this it was that we're thinking about with the outside looking yeah you know I think for me it's not even about that I just like I've always said I want more

[00:37:14] balance like blackish grown-ish and even then they had their problematic stuff here and there but I mean like it's closer to you know the stuff back in the 90s living safe stuff I just want more balance that's it I'm not a empire wasn't I mean once I once I outgrew empire I stopped watching but it wasn't like I'm not here to oh we're making ourselves look that no this is hell this is some black people

[00:37:39] reality I don't know yeah I thought the storyline was really good this is the thing though like there's not a lot of anything yeah reflective of that you know what I'm saying like we and we've talked about with music so yeah we had gangster rap we had some pretty explicit stuff but there was

[00:38:05] balance we also had love songs and we had um new edition and we had good r&d so there was balance with it tv shows the same thing but now it's like there's not a lot to balance it out you have because you got that and then there's baddies baddies but who watches it in this household I don't watch it

[00:38:32] anymore I stopped watching it oh look at you that's right I just for me I can't watch like it's almost like I need my violence to have a reason yeah that's just why I was gonna yeah it's stuff stuff like that now I can't watch like I ain't gonna lie I'm one of the I'm about caught up on the marriage to medicine show but one of the episodes the girl chest bumped her twice so she mooster in the face like

[00:38:57] that that to me makes sense I need to back up you chest bumping me you know but why are they chest bumping well I mean you can't control what somebody else doing I imagine if somebody maybe a little shoulder tap I mean which I wouldn't even call that to me that's I need you to back up she didn't swing after that she just wanted her to back up like that to me makes sense so even if somebody says

[00:39:22] something foul about your child like we can sit here act holier than thou and hands to yourself and that's cool and it's fine but a lot of people in that moment they may react physically that to me is a reasonable depending on what they say you know now if they talk about your parenting because y'all like to do that on those reality shows and y'all get on my nerves if we talk about your parenting we don't talk about your child stop doing it but saying something about somebody's child or something like that that would that may be something that where it's like okay I can see how some furniture could move

[00:39:49] I ain't saying you're right I ain't saying you wrong just I can see how some furniture move but with stuff like baddies or certain stuff like that it's just like we're just fighting for no reason what's the point yeah put a reason to the fight oh no like all of it is like the housewives there's no reason right I don't watch I don't watch any of you the white people shoot shoot the white people shoot you like how I clean that up um you must in here yourself earlier

[00:40:22] I was just saying how even though um the white people shoot I be watching like it'd be that's another thing too I feel like it's still unnecessary drama like it's just like y'all are doing this for what because it sells yeah no really can you know at the end of the day when they say cut

[00:40:46] right or either they don't or either they don't deal with each other at all yeah but it's what sells I look at I listen to a lot of interviews because you know top shows and stuff like that when you listen to the interviews and people always say you know or the directors or the producers they'll just make us and stuff they might go to you and be like yeah she said this about you

[00:41:13] mm-hmm she talking about your bed and then you go over there and then he said action yeah so it's just it's always been produced but I do think in this day and age it's just like you can tell like it's it's yeah it's really easy to like pick it out yeah well that and and that's what saturated it's like yeah I think I would be good for many shows I'm always here for a good roast of course and don't give me a I like my little hood every now and then yeah right

[00:41:41] I like a little bit of balance yeah right I think I'd be good for real authentic and I mean real I'm talking no cameras cut right you can show me 24 7 I think that's real but that's what though that's the thing it's like who wants to watch me

[00:42:04] you I gotta you it's not much are you trying to play you want a stalker is what you want no no I mean because I just think like you're sitting on the phone I just think I'm watching some you just want some dude to talk about a dude she's as lazy as me

[00:42:28] okay anyway next topic next topic she just values her rest ain't that right that's right rest values and one of our local groups and I think we're all a part of said local group and this is funny that we were just talking about the ratchet stuff because this is the ratchet local group

[00:42:53] did y'all happen to see the post where the guy posted a screenshot and it said she wanted to or she was inquiring about renting one of my properties and so on the screenshot it had the message and her profile name was good p quantum

[00:43:21] did y'all see it I did you know what's the last one last part after the p word quantum that was her like her name quantum oh so good p word quantum say it quantum quantum you know but the guy I don't want to hear my parents say exactly exactly exactly

[00:43:50] and I just thought about game show don't want to hear y'all say it I just thought about Suki though yeah we get the picture so the guy messaged her back and was like you know probably need to change the profile name before check and people were what are y'all's thoughts on that like her profile do you want this unit rented out or not see we're in hard times what you might want to take this down

[00:44:20] Tim Tinney what are your thoughts shoot she gonna keep the lights for her and she gonna keep the red page cause she got good fauna if she really if it's red good some people be lying about that what I said what I said was maybe she letting him know if I fall short when I got a backup plan it could be that too but in all seriousness

[00:44:50] in all seriousness is that an appropriate profile name to inquire about renting something or what about a job or what about I don't think um good fauna was even thinking about that but shouldn't she I think so especially as a black woman I think you really need to be thinking about that that's true especially when you're looking to rent a place you gotta think cause you know folks be

[00:45:19] I don't think so it's like you really need to think that shit through but oh think that shit through the three oh I was just about to say she probably don't I get all and I'm not trying to say that as a dis to her like it's just a different I get all of that she probably staying late Olmstead so this is my this is my thing so in the comments she probably what staying late Olmstead we gonna bleep the name cause you can't be we might have we might have some listeners and viewers over there alright in all honesty in the comments

[00:45:49] there were people probably her age y'all's age but what they got what my screen name got to do with whether or not I can pay rent you worried about the wrong thing true what was it oh we'll say that I just see that's this is that's one of those generational type things because also I think it depends on where you from too like I mean but I think as a well

[00:46:19] I don't even think it's a I think it's just a more so like a class thing yeah and also who where where you were raised who raised you exactly that's what I was about to yeah who raised you that is we got y'all the thing about it is the thing about it is I'm not gonna be like good but who raised you has shifted who raised you has shifted yeah so in 20 years

[00:46:48] in 20 years oh my god 20 years dealing with kids and parents parents are different now so the things that we the way that we raised y'all it always gets a little more lax so now you said depending on where you're from what have you true but back when we were younger it didn't like where you from were from

[00:47:16] you still would know better than that maybe but no you would I mean but that shift would happen quicker I think yeah but I mean also y'all didn't have social media because the dynamics and demographics have changed mm-hmm yeah but we also I mean we were taught certain things like that in school yeah like we were taught certain things so it just it it threw me off though that it didn't occur to her

[00:47:42] like that's one of those that'll be emailing the teacher her email might be throw it back 6-9 throw it back mm-hmm mm-hmm there's a lot to when I see and there's people I know still that got throw it back 15 years ago 15 years ago I would look on there and say you know oh the um

[00:48:12] Tisha making it happen yeah you know what I'm saying I'm like okay that might be cool but it was still a little borderline but now at our age now when I see somebody with a title like that and they're in there I'm like what in the world but there was one that we saw on Facebook and it was so funny I don't know but it was one I saw like one of the groups of the life like I can hear in my head and it sounds like it come with a it was one that was like with a head rolled and a snap

[00:48:42] because yeah like Drea make money Fosha with the goo Drea making money moves right Johnson or um come on now but now Melissa gold digger yeah making money moves like yeah yeah I'm sorry whoever the individual was was telling her not I'm sorry the truth because if I right whatever I'm doing

[00:49:12] on there and I see you know sugar sweet coochie corner I feel like first of all thoughts in my head about rent to this person first of all I see I see certain things that you know you just need to go thinking about you know I know my house is going to be told what's your first question going to be I know my house going to be told when she get done what's your house going to be you just need to go to her profile picture and zoom in if you see it

[00:49:42] is it really? I'm sorry zoom in on the photos if you see some Chanel if you see some Louis Vuitton then she not lying and they're ready y'all gotta focus on the bigger I'm not saying I get what y'all saying I do get what y'all saying but if I'm a landlord in this day's town I worry about my money okay yeah now and if the room is dirty if a room dirty on her profile picture

[00:50:12] then you know you getting a dirty house but if the dude I don't know if if the dude has a wife or not mm-hmm oh he got a wife she not having that but if your dad says we got a hit on that rental property I'm just gonna reach out to good yeah I'm gonna reach out to throw it back sweet cheap what? you gonna reach out to who?

[00:50:42] no sir no sir make it happen no let me make it happen give me that nah like that's your name sounds anywhere like close to the porn and stripper industry you have to reevaluate the situation cause I can't you know yeah go over there and see yeah we can't we I can't Rossi don't like you sex shaming she don't like me so candy is that a question? no candy like a stripper

[00:51:10] yeah like what if her name is candy? that's different it's different you can't change her name you ain't you I mean now she says candy unwrap me yeah big papa 704 I mean candy all the guys wanna lick me right you know what I'm saying candy three links to get to the middle like then yeah yeah you know I mean that's crossing lines right yeah that's crossing lines I just it was funny to me that he I'm thankful

[00:51:38] that he decided to bless us with that little laugh because but the fact that he posted it there and people were in the comments they were defending defending Quana so I hope she I hope she finds a place yeah I hope she finds a place and I mean I'm glad she got that place with that good you know I mean he didn't look he screenshot it he could've went back and mess and that's my bad cause he could've posted it and still went back and back and back

[00:52:08] he could've I'm just saying if it is true he could've see you looking at the money aspect mm-hmm if it's true but if it's true I'm thinking about the weather that's gonna be busted out the weather that's gonna be shot out because they all trying to get to it well she you know if she start turning jokers down they gonna want hey what's up with that though you know she got another dude over the house and she just broke up with somebody you know what I'm saying kicking the doors in I gotta replace the door frame you know

[00:52:38] light pictures cause they all wanna be everything so that might not be that good that's why you ask for her um her prior landlord reports yeah call them make sure she call the house authority make sure she ain't getting um stuff broken cause with a name like that that's what it sounds like oh my god I mean it could be his she might live in Martin Land now see now see it's possible now see y'all better caught up at Kroger one day but but y'all y'all

[00:53:08] but you know we always talk about perception you ain't gonna find a big one we always talk about perception his words we always talk about perception so yes perception the minute you see something you got that's that's the instant with the first impression oh yeah for sure oh yeah and it's hard to change that first impression around oh yeah you know what I'm saying so I'm looking at the name I'm like I don't know if I want to read them and that's what I be thinking about I got to replace doors

[00:53:38] I got to replace windows you would be thinking about that kids gonna be kicking up the door you know what I'm saying but not everybody be thinking like you a lot of people me personally I don't know if I've been trying to rent out the unit for three months it's hard enough I might get on the phone but you think about it it's hard enough getting something with a name that looks ethnic you know what I'm saying right it's hard enough as it is just regular name so that means Kwanna she damned if she do and damned if she don't if her name is Kwanneesha

[00:54:08] well she's trying to mean it's hard enough for Kwanneesha to get the dog maybe it is so she just said I'm just gonna let them know I got a good fee of my name Kwanna Kwanna with the awkward Kwanna you know we do that's a pretty white name Reagan, Tyson I feel like they're neutral but I mean palatable I will say it's bad yeah I'm kinda neutral I haven't met a white person in a minute really? this boy yesterday

[00:54:37] you remember Jayden his brother was named Tyson his little brother was named Tyson uh huh and then there's Brian is close to Byron so I feel like Byron could pass for both like what is that? oh jeez what do you mean mom? Rachel Lindsay got to pay that star and mother five hundred thousand dollars two hundred thousand dollars this year and two hundred thousand whatever's left over next year and meanwhile I mean Rachel she's not the this is the lady from The Bachelorette who won the black one

[00:55:07] who won a couple years ago wait she has to yeah she gotta pay him five hundred thousand dollars cause they broke up? yeah and he didn't even well that that must have been with the contract cause with Love Island if they break not Love Island no no this is the courts Love is Blind if they um this is the courts they got divorced and she has to pay him um well is that part of the contract though? because with Love is Blind it's not regular how do you know that? well then what's the what is the contract with Love is Blind what is it though? it's like if they break up or um get divorced

[00:55:36] or they don't end up marrying like it's like they gotta pay five hundred thousand dollars oh they probably do a contract because there might be a contract if they're like not married long enough or whatever well from what I heard cause I remember when they got married I remember that they probably do stuff like that to prevent to try and prevent people from going on there like people from going on there just to be right yeah remember um that catfish episode there was one where um cause there's a couple

[00:56:06] well there was one where the girl you Kelly Price looking ass no not that we love you Kelly was acting real weird you should never call me a fat ass Kelly there we go that one was fun too oh my god but I wouldn't think about that but sorry was it new or it was a um when Kelly was about to slap that girl it was getting nasty well that wasn't it either but yeah that was I can't remember it was an older one

[00:56:35] and she kept acting weird and they finally got her alone and talked to her and she admitted that they had like planned the whole thing out but was it the African girl with Machine Gun Kelly and the lesbian yes yay yes cause Machine Gun Kelly had walked out he got so mad yes yes that was it and so they probably have things like that in place huh

[00:57:05] where he's from um well that was the course that was the course that was the course I was just like my whole thing she getting her way in we had them dog on shows like I did I watched the uh who had a series on uh shows tv shows 2000 reality tv shows mmhmm and they talked about the bachelorette series mmhmm and it was like I didn't realize their show had been on that long it was like 18 seasons

[00:57:44] mmhmm yeah we like the uh married at first sight I love married at first sight yeah that was I keep trying to tell somebody we need to watch and but anywho the episodes are so long like I was saying yeah like an hour and a half uh huh yeah that's too long to sit well what I was trying to say was like my thing is like when it comes to situations like that my thing is like at the end of the day when we talk about marriage as a society and I actually covered this

[00:58:15] shameless plug in my episode Ty squared um one of my friends Ty y'all gonna support us but um we talked about the Twitch and Allison thing we covered that and um like at the end of the day love and marriage and all that and how we look at that from an American standpoint you know it's cute and it's you know it can be a nice thing the wedding all that stuff but I do feel like a lot of times people look at it through a romanticized lens and not remember this is a legal binding this person can pull the plug on you yeah

[00:58:44] and it don't matter what your mama say if you bound yourself to them so going into that with and that's the point I was trying to make when we were talking about her like I wouldn't want Reagan to just marry somebody and not have her something to the side because when love is gone if it we would hope that if you got married it lasted the whole time but if that when that if that does expire when mad day is there ain't no love it don't matter if there's kids there men will make your kids go hungry just to make you go that's what I'm talking about really

[00:59:14] I think really and women do it too you know all that stuff you know really but with our generation I feel like the whole point of marriage and all that I'm sorry we was on the last topic but since we got on this um I just think marriage nowadays is just seeing that so like is taboo the right word? um it could be depending on what you're I don't think it seems taboo I think a lot of people question like it's not it's not taken seriously yeah right like

[00:59:44] I just think people would much rather have kids and shack up and consider that a marriage than like rather work on a you know I think for me it's not it's not so much a marriage that's a thing because at the end of the day I hate to call this lady cause but as Ken Zosiac said the ring doesn't mean a thing um I remember I was reading this clip earlier of wait Ken Zosiac? yeah wow the racist one? yeah yeah her sir

[01:00:12] you pulled the only way don't be totally for the point I was about to say really really I'm sorry she ate right there she ate right there y'all I'm sorry ate what the? just a piece just a piece no I don't listen to it I just listen to it on the show but she ate she been gambling that money away um but at any rate that's what I was saying I was watching this we keep running up reality TV

[01:00:41] but I mean but Bambi um talk about Scrappy and you know he called her baby mama in our conversation she said you will address me as your wife I'm not your baby mama and I kinda knew she was gonna do that anyways cause she's always made it a thing to like one up herself from Erica but it's like you got the same nigga like you're married to a pimp's son and you know no she hated Mama D I met her in person every day on stage she was very drunk Mama D we almost had some words but you know um

[01:01:11] you got the same nigga like so what does it mean for you to say I'm his wife not his baby mama if the quality of your man is zero to none even Mama D had to finally take her nipple out of his mouth and say he don't pay his rent they wanted to he wanted to go in business with her or something like that and she had to say he don't pay his rent is so it's almost like you know I don't think it's the fact of you know baby mama or this and that and I will say society does look down on baby mom baby children's mothers

[01:01:40] they do look down on women who are mothers of children with no man to be beside them but at the end of the day I think it's more so about how you set yourself up and what it looks like for you um and just you know if you're not gonna be married you know have something in place you know to where if something happens because like I said when mad day comes there is no love it's and that's why it's important too to know who you're partnering with oh yeah and maybe not do stuff so young

[01:02:09] cause I think De'Aaron and Ken are like 24 or 23 and they have been I've never had any thoughts of the thing is it's like with today's generation y'all do things so fast mmhm so there's no time to get to know anybody it's like well we get along we've been together for a month or you know I'm in a situation where I gotta move out or whatever

[01:02:38] well you come stay with me and a lot of times that's how those relationships are started yeah it's not always well I love you it's started out of the situation the situationship it begins mmhm and so you're trying to make this situation last but you ain't even been with this person long enough and then you start to see those negative qualities about it and then it's like well I don't wanna put up with that so it's like quick to get in and then quick to get out so that's why everybody's just

[01:03:07] doing this and doing that whereas like you know when we came up we dated for at least you know a year sometimes or you know at least a year nobody dated years I was about to say we didn't but I was like yeah and also with every relationship it depends on how people got together yeah it really is mmhm and and love is not

[01:03:36] nearly enough yeah oh yeah it's not is not nearly enough not enough for them kids it's not enough for rain it's not nearly enough so yeah you have to like respect yeah um your dad makes me want to be a better person I want him to be proud of me

[01:04:00] and so you have to have someone who motivates you to be a better version of your step and you have to honor them not even that but I honor myself because I want him to to be proud that I'm his his person so there's so much that goes into it and I think that our generation don't get that they don't no they don't there's not a lot of grace given and you realize that it's too late oh yeah oh yeah so

[01:04:31] there's not a lot of grace given so like you say you jump into these situations you're with somebody a person makes a mistake and when I say make a mistake I mean like um I've we've seen some people what was it the woman had a wreck the guy was at work she hit something and she said it bent her mirror and he wouldn't leave work ma'am

[01:05:01] you're not hurt the vehicle is drivable you hit the mirror take it home so he can see it when he gets home yeah so those types of and she said I think I want a divorce because you hit something up yeah so those types of things where we have to understand that humans are are not perfect beings yep and we have to extend grace um to people because

[01:05:30] none of us are perfect a lot of that doesn't happen though but and I think a lot of times people look at it as how is it going to benefit me not me yeah I also think a lot of people just contorting themselves into what they're not like I really I honestly do not think a lot of people are naturally monogamous I do think some people try to bend themselves into that because that's what society says is right or you know they maybe not

[01:05:59] cannot afford to be polygamous or don't think they can find somebody for that or whatever their whatever their way of partnership looks like so I do think people should kind of just take their cells out stop throwing yourself into relationship after relationship and just kind of question yourself on what works for me what am I looking for um and how does this benefit me and serve me as well as whomever else I'm looking for you know what I'm saying

[01:06:27] because everything is not going to work for everybody so thanks for watching guys tune in next time we won't be here but we'll be here soon okay oh my god love ya thanks for joining us on another wonderful episode of the beyond that new podcast you silly ass kids until next time

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