In this episode of Beyond I Do, Byron and Margaret sit down with G. Scott Graham — licensed psychotherapist, author of 31 books, EMT, firefighter, Tai Chi instructor, and self-described "existential handyman" — for a conversation that reframes everything most couples think they know about relationships.
Scott breaks down his co-pilot model: why healthy couples collaborate instead of negotiate, how to identify turbulence before it becomes a crash, and why commitment is the real foundation of a lasting marriage.
In this episode:
The co-pilot vs. pilot dynamic in relationships
Why negotiation, ultimatums, and avoidance destroy marriages
How to build emotional radar with your spouse
Why love fluctuates — and what to do when it does
The escape room test for your relationship
What marriage vows are actually about
Find G. Scott Graham: Search "G. Scott Graham" on Google — you'll find his books, podcast appearances, and articles.
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